Rightly or wrongly, I’ve always battled with living the ordinary kinda life – I just didn’t and still don’t see that for myself.
So, 49 years young, how’s it all looking now?
Well, honestly, probably 75% of it still feels like “ordinary” to me but I now have an absolute CLEAR VISION and SUPER STRONG FOCUS on how to change that to EXTRAORDINARY!
“Bit by bit”, has always been a key phrase for me and it really does work, if you stay consistent and committed to your goal in action.
So what will make the difference now, as opposed to 5, 10 or 20 years ago?
Well, this time, I am building on absolute SOLID ground and my core values are so deep rooted into the purpose behind my vision that even a magnitude 10 earthquake could not shake me off this meaningful path.
You see, I never had that before. I always had the belief and the self-confidence but spinning too many plates, led to too many distractions and therefore building on shaky ground – that was never going to last longterm.
I also just ‘feel it in my bones’ this time around. Everything seems to be pointing in the right direction and I feel like I am dancing towards the finish line, rather than running scared!
It can be exhausting changing your life for the better. So much energy is consumed at the start and it feels like nothing much is happening. It’s usually when you feel like giving up that a little glimmer of hope begins to sparkle from the distance.
Please don’t get me wrong, I’ve had a blast, living most of my ordinary life and it can feel quite perfect at certain times. We all have different definitions of ordinary – it’s really just down to personal preference and can be simple or somewhat complex.
Ultimately, if you’re happy, well in my eyes, you’ve already hit the jackpot and I genuinely salute you.
Does that then mean I’m not happy, chasing the extraordinary? For me, I am happy and I am MOST HAPPIEST pursuing my aspirational future whilst helping others along the way.
I guess, we’re all in this together, so let’s enjoy the process and give back as much as we can.
By Clarabelle, London, UK Written on 8 August 2022 Posted to blog on 2 September 2022
A friend once said to me, “I don’t do fear”. I was like, “WOW”, what a way to think! She would share stories with me of times in her life when she faced so much adversity that fear was never an option for her – she had to survive! This woman is one super BRAVE lady!
Today though, as I reflect back on that enlightening conversation, I think of all the times in my younger life when being “fearful” was actually a positive for me.
I was sometimes fearful of my teachers at school, so much so, I would do extra studying after school, just so I could get the teacher’s question right in class. Overall, I think that did me a litte bit of good – especially in Accounts, which I hated but passed with flying colours!
I was lots of times fearful of doing talks and presentations in front of a little or a lot of people. This fear was also good, because it made me practice and practice and PRACTICE in order to improve and become better at it. In a weird sort of way, I still find it easier to talk to a live audience of thousands of people, rather than an intimate bunch of 20. Give me a huge big stage and I’m comfortably on it! I also have a very loud voice and super high energy – so I guess it all fits!
I’m certainly not advocating all fear, I just think, sometimes it can work to your advantage in certain ‘self-development’ circumstances.
Where, I think fear did not work for me, was when I pulled myself out of the running races at School because I knew I wasn’t fast enough to beat some other runners. In my head at the time, I thought, I’m not entering this competition because I won’t win the gold medal and I don’t want silver or bronze – how super childish is that thinking!
That type of silly thinking also straddled into my young work life when I didn’t go for early promotions because I thought other colleagues would get the job over me and I didn’t want to deal with the hurt, embarrassment and rejection. So this type of fear that I am describing, is really NOT good. Thankfully, those types of fear I just don’t have anymore and nothing like that ever holds me back from “giving it a go”.
Today, I am a “face fear head on” type of person – if I’m fearful – then I must do it – that’s it!
Imagine yourself today, STRONG, FEARLESS and POWERFUL – now what you going to do about it?
By Clarabelle, London, UK Created on 9 August 2022 Posted to Blog on 29 August 2022
Are you craving for some peaceful tranquility in your life right now?
If you’re running around in a frenzy trying to get everything done yesterday, then maybe you do need to slow down a bit.
There is nothing more important than your health and wellbeing, so please, give yourself some well needed, ‘breathing space’.
Your family, friends and work will benefit more in the long run, if you jump off that hamster wheel and take some ‘time out’.
Your head and your heart needs a break from all the noise and unnecessary distractions that pull you in so many different directions. How on earth can you move forward with all that stuff pulling you back.
Make time for yourself to BE YOURSELF – not the angry parent, stressed out boss, frustrated friend or worried workmate.
Just time for you, to focus on YOU!
I bet, even that very thought, seems like bliss.
Remember you are deeply loved, respected and admired by the people in your life – so make sure you bring your best energy when you’re with them and that means a well rested you in advance.
Remember your experience and you’ll remember your worth!
Many years ago, a genius mind once said to my doubtful mind, “Claire, remember your experience” and that was EVERYTHING I needed to hear at that moment in time.
For some reason, I had forgotten about it for a little while and it turned me into a short-term worrying wreck. However, as soon as I was triggered to think about what I brought to the table, I turned into that brave, courageous, self-confident human being I love.
Never EVER doubt the extraordinary qualities you offer and be proud of your life successes to date.
Even if you never ever become the BEST in your field, the fact that you actually strive to be the greatest, is what will make the difference between being ordinary or being AWESOME.
I always aim to be better today than yesterday – it might not always work out, but at least I go for it!
If I believe I AM THE GREATEST in my field, I won’t let limited thinking stand in my way of progression.
Even if, in the eyes of many, I am not the greatest, I don’t allow their thinking to have a negative affect on mine. Well, wouldn’t that be a bit BIG HEADED then? Absolutely NOT, if it is for a meaningful purpose and aligns with your core values.
Never apologise for aiming to be the BEST in your field. Never ‘dumb down’ your talents and abilities to fit into a smaller box. In my opinion, battle your way out of any boxed thinking and set yourself FREE to achieve greatness.
If you’re not aligned with the above – that’s okay – you just need to kick your way out of that box!
I see you doing AMAZING things, when you let your greatness shine through.
By Clarabelle, London, UK Article written on 3 August 2022 Posted on blog 19 August 2022
There is absolute genius in you and you’ve got to believe that.
No other person in this world has had the exact same experiences as you or thinks exactly like you.
You can always bring ‘another level’ to whatever you are involved in.
Don’t be scared to demonstrate the best of you. Be proud of you and your true potential, enabling you to get to where you want to go.
Never shy away from what you truly deserve to have in your life. Only you can hold you back – now read that line again!
Be a sponge for learning new things, no matter what age you are and ensure you focus your energy on what really matters to you.
Mix all of the above with undeniable self-belief and you’re on your way to not only changing yourself for the better but to having a positive impact on the world too.
You may not think about it in this way, but you really can inspire others with what you say and what you do – that’s how powerful you truly are.
Go out today and show everyone what you’ve got. Your future success relies on today’s impactful thinking, so make sure your brave heart, leads you through every unknown battle and into the life you truly deserve.
It’s been over a week since I’ve posted on this blog so I do apologise for this, I haven’t forgot about you.
Being prepared for an opportunity puts you in pole position and I know this has worked for me now and in the past. Preparation is the key to making things happen because you are setting yourself up for when the opportunity takes a smile.
So if you’re hoping and waiting and wanting that perfect opportunity, get yourself prepared now, do what you can today and you’ll be welcoming that new gateway with open arms.
The gateway to the world is there for the taking, do what you can today and it will reduce or fully eliminate all fears of the unknown.
I was scrolling down my Facebook feed this morning, and one status from a teacher friend immediately stood out:
‘Is it wrong to have the Sunday night blues at this time in a morning?’
How I remember that feeling. Twelve months ago, my state of mind was exactly the same, except, my Sunday night blues would start on Saturday morning – the respite from the almost permanent state of anxiety I experienced would be on Friday nights, when I knew I wouldn’t have to face anything for two days and was busy comforting myself with huge amounts of junk food in an effort to make myself feel temporarily better.
Just over seven months ago, I decided that I’d had enough, and I quit my teaching job without a new job to go to. This was the scariest thing I have ever done – I’ve had a job since I got…
It’s never too late to change direction in your career, you can change direction at any moment in your life.
If you had to change direction in your career, what direction would you go in? What other job or business would you like to have? Sometimes it’s really good to just think about these things because if you’re unhappy where you are, you can always change it. You are in control of your life, you just need to really truly believe that.
In my opinion, changing direction in your career can move you from stuck to unstuck to opportunities galore, yes, I really mean that, because I have experienced that for myself.
The thought of changing direction in your career can be quite scary but it can also feel really liberating too. So let this thought simmer in your mind a little longer, maybe you’ll change direction and maybe you won’t but there is no harm “window shopping” if you know what I mean.
Take a look at what’s out there, you’re only looking right?
Just a Girl Who Got it All, that’s the title of the latest book I’ve been reading by Tanya Bardo and I really did like it a lot, it was a fabulous refresher of how to continously bring positivity into your life.
It is a true story of Life Coach Tanya Bardo, who turned her dreams into reality, I love inspiring true stories.
Tanya shares insights into her life, what was happening to her when her thinking was almost always negative and how she managed to turn it around to much more positive thinking everyday in her life and the positive things that came from this.
It was a fabulous reminder to me to always keep a positive mind and to visualise right now having the life you want – I love doing that and the book got me doing this again.
There is a quote in the book which I really really loved and I loved it so much that I immediately shared it with my friend who then shared it with her family, this is it below:
“God will not take you to what he cannot pull you through.”
I just loved that quote, for me truly inspiring and full of pure faith.
The book was simple to read, easy to follow and a gentle refresher on the mind to stay positive.
I love reading inspirational books.
What is your most favourite inspirational book? I’d really love to know.
I didn’t know it, I honestly didn’t know this, for the best part of my life, I didn’t know this……I just didn’t.
Well, what is it, that I didn’t know?
I didn’t know that I could write, I didn’t know that I would want to write, I didn’t know that I was passionate about writing, until I started writing. I mean really started writing, regularly, consistently and being inspired to write on this blog.
It’s not that I didn’t write before, sure I’ve wrote many policies and procedures, I’ve written University Assignments, I’ve written Board Reports, I’ve written Client Summary Reports but and I mean a BIG BUT, to me, although they obviously were writing, they weren’t freedom writing, they weren’t my heart speaking and flowing with inspiring graciousness.
So to me there is “writing” and there is “real writing” and I am now captivated in the latter.
I am 41 years young now and I started this Clarabelle Blog at the age of 38, wow, has it really taken that long for me to hear my calling, for me to really truly listen to the whispers of my heart?? WOW!!
I guess it has…………………..and you know what, it doesn’t matter when in life you discover what your calling is, what’s more important is that you respond positively and do what your heart is telling you to do and in my case, I guess, it is writing……writing like this, yes, just like this, nothing too fancy, nothing too wordy, keeping it simple but full of inspirational wisdom with a poetic verse thrown in for good measure.
Isn’t life kinda funny, one minute you think you’re headed on one path and all of a sudden, something happens and you’re nudged up another path (notice I said “up” not “down”)!! Cos we’re on our way up here, right!!
I wonder what your heart is whispering to you…..I wonder? Do you wonder, or do you know the answer already to that one? I really hope you do and you are acting upon it.