What’s next for your life, have you really thought about that one today? If things are getting way too boring and comfortable for you, well it’s time to shake things up a little. What could you do to add a little bit of pizzazz into your life? What area of your life needs to be more fulfilling?
Just a few questions but when answered and actioned upon, could really make the difference for you – so what’s next for you?
Don’t allow yourself to drift aimlessly through another month. It’s the start of a brand new month, so put yourself up for the challenge and set yourself a worthwhile goal. Go on, give yourself the gift of a goal.
Feel the freshness,
In the air.
A New Year dawns,
Hope is everywhere.
Dreams and wishes,
Goals and plans.
Minds of “I Cans”.
Give it your all,
And a little but more.
Let the New Year,
Open every door.
I see you, I know you’re watching me, I believe you are listening to every word I whisper, I feel you’re desire for a better you, a better life, a new tomorrow.
But I know you are a little scared, you have fears, but you’re going to be alright, you’re going to be much much better than alright. How do I know this? I just know this, because that’s why you’re here, everyday you visit me and you know it will help you, you know it will help you ease your current pain and you’re gonna make it.
Did you hear me right? Yes, you, YOU, you’re gonna make it, that dream you’ve always wanted to achieve, that burning ambition living inside of you……it’s making its way to your heart, it wants to breathe true life into you, it’s getting ready to take on the world and nothing is going to stop it, which means nothing is going to stop you.
Pause for a moment, think about it……really think about it, you can see it right? I know you can, because I can see it too. WOW, it looks amazing, your future self is so grateful you took the courage and made the first step now. Go on, take another step, that’s right, you’re doing really great…….do you feel your heart smiling, it is you know, it is smiling with super joy because you’re heading in the right direction. Where are you going? Maybe we could do this together, help each other along the way, two brave soldiers heading out into battle and the only outcome possible is reaching the rainbow at the other end.
What a great day this is, this is the most amazing day for you, you might not realise it yet, but you’ve just climbed a huge mountain and you’re now looking at the view from the top……..You may be a little bruised getting here, but you’ve got here, wasn’t it all worth it, don’t you agree that you deserve so much better for you and for your family. Let’s go my friend, there’s another mountain to climb, but we’re in this together, fighting with our hearts and minds to achieve EVERYTHING that we want and more.
Expect a wonderful happy surprise, feel what that feels like and you know what, I believe that the law of attraction has got to give it to you.
Do what feels good to you and that doesn’t mean that you have to wait until it has actually materialised, feel good now, in this moment and smile. I think a lovely surprise is on it’s way to you and to me…just you wait and see!!
Life is full of wonderful surprises, love to you, Clarabelle.
Enough is Enough,
That’s what he said.
Forget the past,
Get out of bed.
When all ain’t well,
When times get bad.
Remember the happy,
Not the sad.
Focus on giving,
Give all you’ve got.
Put yourself first,
Pick up your trot.
Set mini goals,
Ones you’ll achieve.
Momentum will build,
The more you’ll believe.
The time has come,
Be all you can be,
Take a stance now,
Forever you’ll be free.
Thank you to one and all who visit this Clarabelle Blog, I am delighted with the blog’s progress and in my Bonny Scottish accent I would like to say that I am “chuffed to bits” that you are here. Cheers to you for dropping by, I love it.
In my day job when I am coaching I often work with people on how to identify what they want in life. This can be a difficult one for some people because it isn’t always obvious for them, for many different reasons.
There is one coaching tool that I use which often gets great results for the person and I would like to share it with you here today so you can try it, if you wish. I call this the “What I Want” Table (see photo below).
Take a blank piece of paper (see photo below) and head it up “What I Want“. State underneath this what life area you want to focus on for e.g. “Health”. Draw a table with two columns. On the left hand column, write the heading, “What I Don’t Want” and the right hand column, write the heading, “What I Want”.
People struggling to identify what they want in life often find it easier to start with what they DON’T want in that area of their life.
Complete the left hand column first for e.g. what you don’t want to think, feel, do and experience in this specific area of your life and then write down the contrast of that on the right column, i.e. “What I Want”, i.e. what I do want to think, feel, do and experience.
This is a really simple but effective process in helping you identify what you want by thinking about what you don’t want first. It can make identifying the “What I Want” process a whole lot easier for you.
Your BIG Why
It is also really important to have a big enough reason as to WHY you want to achieve that goal in the first place, why is it so important for you to achieve and it must also be in alignment with your core values.
If you are struggling to think about what you want in life, please try the above process and let me know if it works for you. This process really works for me and for some of the people I coach but it is important to know that we are all different and just because this process works for me it doesn’t mean it will work for you. But hey, I say, please give it a go and tell me what you think.
I set specifics goals for myself at the beginning of 2013 and I review their progress every 3-4 months together with some fine tuning of these goals. All these goals are also directly related to my Vision Wall that I created in the spring time of 2012, please see the Vision Wall page here on this blog for more specific details around the process I followed specifically for that.
Today I want to share with you the process I have carried out in creating my Focus Goal Cards as this is something you may wish to do for yourself.
I have seven specific Focus Goal Cards that I completed for myself.
Each Focus Goal is written on an A6 size piece of white card (see photos below) with the following details:
Date you start the goal card
Why this is an important goal for you to achieve
Action steps you will take (on back of card)
Your signature of your commitment to achieving this goal
Date you expect the goal to be completed by
Ultimate Success Formula (F.A.S.T.) (on back of card)
Below is a photo of an example for you:
The A6 size Focus Goal Cards are for my office desk so that I can read them often when working from it.
I also wanted to be able to keep my Focus Goal Cards at hand, so that I can read them when I am out and about, so I decided to create a miniature version of each Focus Goal Card, beginning with an “I Am” statement for e.g. “I am in perfect health”.
I then keep these smaller cards, with less information on them, in my Focus Goal Card Wallet in my handbag and read them throughout the day, as much as possible.
What I am specifically doing here, is that I am consciously and deliberately making an effort, with repetition in mind to shift these goals from my conscious mind into my subconscious mind so that I will then automatically do things every day that are in support of me achieving these goals.
Focus Goal Journal
In addition to the above I also have a Focus Goal Journal (photo below) where I continually write each specific goal on the notepad journal, line after line after line, filling up each page – again this is so the goal moves more quickly from my conscious mind into my subconscious mind.
So there you have it, that’s the Focus Goal Card process that I am currently going through. I am fully aware that this is the final quarter of the year and I wanted to step it up a level in order to ensure I achieve what I want, so this is what I decided to do to achieve that. Together with my Vision Wall I feel this makes a dynamic goal achievement processthat is bespoke to me and I know what works for me. For yourself, it may be a completely different process but I guess you won’t know until you try it for yourself and if you do, please let me know how you get on, I will certainly let you know how I am getting on in a future blog post.
After all, “What you think about, you bring about”and I want YOU and I to do everything we can to support that process.
Know what you want and just you go for it and please do whatever works best for you.
The last 4 months I have been training vigorously for the Loch Ness Marathon to be held this Sunday, 29 September 2013. This is my final week of training and I am pleased to say that it has all gone reasonably well with only some minor injuries and a few cuts and bruises. This is my third marathon, I did the New York Marathon in 2007 and the London Marathon in 2010, both really challenging but amazing experiences. Below is a photo of the training plan I have been following for the Loch Ness Marathon 2013:
I am excited about the Marathon run this Sunday, it can be a very exhilarating and highly emotional experience as you push your body past the realms of capability. I am not sure if I will commit to doing another Marathon, I may look for a new fitness challenge, so this Sunday I am going to embrace the whole experience fully and be so thankful for my health, energy and fitness levels to take me past the finish line. Below is a photograph of my running medals since I started road running in 2007:
I have learned a lot about myself whilst setting myself these running challenges or any challenge for that matter. I know when I fully commit to a goal that I want to do, my determination and tunnel-vision focus will always see me achieve it. It is like I have this inner dial in my subconscious mind switched to whatever the goal is and I know I am going to do it, I have absolute faith and belief that I will achieve that goal…..butit has to be a goal that I am passionate about doing!!
Of course, just like any goal you want to achieve in life, you have to have a plan and you have to introduce new daily rituals which will support you and move you towards that goal. Just like my Marathon Training Plan above, then all I have to do is follow it…..simple!! Hahaha, well sometimes not so simple but I know you get my drift. 🙂
So there you have it, this Sunday, 29 September 2013, I will be running 26.2 miles in an around Inverness, Scotland and I look forward to sharing the success story in a future blog post.
What goal have you always wanted to achieve and why? Maybe, today is the day you decide to commit to it fully, set the inner dial on your subconscious mind to whatever it is and just you go for it.
I want to give a massive thanks to YOU for visiting this Clarabelle blog. Just over a month ago I was celebrating reaching 10,000 blog hits and yesterday I am amazed to say that I reached 12,000, this is the fastest growth ever to date. I want to give thanks to all the other bloggers, guest bloggers, facebook friends, linkedin connections, twitter followers and all other visitors who take the time to come and visit my blog and read, like and comment on my posts.
I truly LOVEdoing this blog, I choose to put a lot of love and positive energy into it because I am passionate about what I write and share with you. I don’t plan in advance what I want to write, I just write what feels right at the time……and I really do hope it adds value to your day.
Thank you for your full support, encouragement and inspiration and I really do mean that.
Wishing you a very beautiful day filled with true passion and love for what you do, love Clarabelle
As some of you may already know I have my own Professional Coaching Business, Murray People International Coaching, www.murraypeople.com. I set up the business in 2008 after a wonderful career as a Human Resource Professional and now nearly 5 years later, it is still growing strong…I love coaching. I mainly coach Senior Executives in Global Companies but I also do private one to one Career and Life Coaching, I am fully certified as a Professional Coach. I really love working with people and seeing them achieve their goals in life. I deliberately make a real effort to continually develop myself everyday so that I can use my learning in my one to one sessions with my clients, I know the better that I can become, then the better I will work with them, and the better they will become and get the results they want. Every new coaching tool I learn for clients, I also apply to myself, this helps me to personally evolve and increases my self-awareness. So lately I have been asking myself my own questions about my life, here is the question I asked myself recently:
What do you want your life to be/look like one year from now?
So, of course, I went to work and I looked at each area of my life and in great detail wrote down what I specifically want my life to be and look like one year from now. I absolutely loved this process. I looked at the following areas:
Family & Friends
Leisure & Activities
Three pages later and I had a wonderful vision of where I WILL be one year from now because I believe that will happen for me, because I WILL make it happen for me. I have a very good track record, I was thinking of goals I have set myself in the past and fully committed to and I can honestly say I have achieved every single one of them, so this gives me an abundance of self-confidence going forward.
What About YOU?
If you want to make positive changes in your life, I would totally recommend that you sit down quietly with a notepad and pen or type on your computer/iPad and answer that question for yourself:
What do YOU want YOUR life to be/look like one year from now?
What you do after that is your choice, I read my list every morning, so I can get my specific goals embedded into my heart, mind and soul and this helps me to become super focused in achieving that for myself, sometimes without even trying. You see it is like programming my brain to focus on achieving that for myself, so my everyday choices and decisions are in support of those life goals. I am super focused, laser focused, fully committed and fully passionate about making these goals happen for me. I want the same for YOU, I want you to have a better life, I want you to have everything that you have ever wanted, I want the BEST for YOU, I truly and honestly do. It’s your life, GO GET IT!! (I think I may make that my new slogan!!)
May every thought that you think today, be in support of a better you and a better life for you, lots of love, as always, Clarabelle.
I was talking to one of my clients only last week about deliberate practice towards a desired goal that is in alignment with your core values. Today I came across this YouTube video by Dr Bill Crawford, I really love his work and what he stands for, I learn so much from him. Watch the video below, it really does make a lot of sense.
Wishing you a wonderful day today, love Clarabelle.
It was the London Marathon on Sunday, 21 April 2013, and I just want to say a massive congratulations to everyone who took part in the run and also to the most amazing support from the thousands of people who stand for hours along the side of the road to cheer on the runners. I have run a couple of marathons before so I really do know what it is like to feel the wonderful support and encouragement from the crowd, it really does motivate you as a runner and really puts a smile on your face. I did the London marathon in 2010 with my good friend Gina and we raised a good amount of money for a charity which is very close to Gina’s heart, Alzheimer Scotland. I don’t often share a lot of videos on this blog but I thought it might be nice to share the video I personally made in 2010 of our London Marathon experience, it is quite good fun to watch, you will see from the video how excited I am – so please be prepared. I feel there is at least one more marathon in me and as I write this I am seriously contemplating doing another one this year – which one, I don’t know you, but I will let you know when I have decided.
So please enjoy the wee video, I hope it makes you smile and maybe even inspires you to take on the challenge of running a marathon.
Below is a post taken from an older blog of mine…..I don’t use this blog any more however I feel some of the more empowering posts from it would be really good to share on here. This post was originally written in 2009, I hope it makes you think a little differently. Go for your goals today. Love Clarabelle.
Today, I was at the beach watching a little girl chase her father’s remote controlled car around in circles. She kept jumping forward and falling on her knees in an effort to catch the car as it skidded by. She did this 31 times and failed. But on attempt number 32, she caught the car. [Makes Me Think (MMT), Marc and Angel]
If only as adults we were sometimes as brave and determined as that young child and then maybe our fear of failure would not inhibit us from our most greatest life successes. How many times have we as adults only have had to fail once and then we never try or do again? What made that little girl not give up after the first time? I think for sure she was enjoying the journey of her learning experience and having lots of fun, fun, fun with her father. I also think she did not care about what anybody else thought. She had no negative thoughts in her mind preventing her from continuing and no limiting beliefs blocking her path. She sounded excited, happy and free to never give up—even after 31 times.
What have you prevented yourself from doing after falling at the first hurdle?
What would it mean for you to get back up, stand tall, be confident and embrace the opportunities that lie ahead?
Surely in every failure there is a lesson to be learned and by applying the lessons second or third time around maybe, just maybe, your outcome would be different every time, and every time I bet you would get closer to your goal.(Claire Murray)
“It only takes one person to change your life—YOU” [Ruth Casey]
I am thinking about my happy childhood today, so I decide to take a snapshot memory from one of these true moments and share it with you today. Release the child inside of you, just for a moment, just for today, be that child once more, it feels so loving and carefree. Lots of love, Clarabelle.
My Soul is Free
I am 8 years old, I am playing in the swing park and look up to the pretty red sky on a sweet summers night. I see a million lights sparkling in the distance, like the most precious jewels I have ever seen, they mesmerize me. It feels like I am in a hypnotic state, my heart feels happy, my soul is free, I dream, I visualise my future….
“I’ll be there one day”, I say;
Here, right now, I can be there any moment of any day, for my childlike imagination, can take me there. Whenever I want to go there and without physical travel, I can instantly be there.
Where is there?
There is “Happiness” my friend, Happiness is my home and my heart has always lived there.
We’ve all had days when we feel a little bit ‘stuck’ and I include myself here, after all we are only human. It is possible for you to go from stuck to unstuck within moments and I believe the process for this is different for every person. When I created the poem below I was feeling in a ‘stuck’ place, but by the time I had finished the poem, I had moved to unstuck…the answer came from within and when I was in ‘creative flow’. What will you do today to help you move from a feeling of being ‘stuck’ to ‘unstuck’? There is a way, there is always a way, silence your mind, open your heart and let the answers flow. Much love to you, Clarabelle.
Today I Was Stuck
It’s nearly midnight, and I’m lying in bed;
I think of my inaction, before I rest my head.
Today I was stuck, I didn’t play the game;
Life got the better of me, unleash this chain.
Many brick walls, are in my way;
Built up by me, getting higher each day.
I kick and I punch, the battle is in me;
I’m fighting myself, this I can see.
So what do I do, to turn this around?
Inside is the answer, this I have always found.
Let go of the fight, it’s not a war anymore;
Staring at these four walls, will not open the door.
Step outside, breathe in the air;
Replenish your spirit, feel the wind in your hair.
Dust yourself down, and put a smile on your face;
Slowly walk down the path, and gradually pick up the pace.
To master the mind, it not about control;
Release that desire, and you’ll discover your soul.
Sometimes in life, I truly believe that we are meant to meet some people, I know they have crossed my path for a reason. Sometimes at the time, that reason is not clear, however, as time goes by, that reason comes to light – a big, bright, beautiful, stunning shining light, shining the way for the path ahead. That meeting benefits both people in different ways and creates a mystical magic that grows from within our heart and soul. I was introduced to a new friend last week and it was this person who inspired the next poem in me. Never give up on your goal, never give up on your dreams, never give up on your vision and most of all, MOST of all never give up on YOU. I hope this poem inspires you to take control of your life, make things happen for you and reach out for help, there is always others who want to help and I am most definitely one of them. If you feel I can help you, then I know I can, I am here for each and everyone of you. Wishing you a day full of inspired action towards all that you want to achieve in life. Much love to you Clarabelle.
The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2012 annual report for this blog.
Here’s an excerpt:
600 people reached the top of Mt. Everest in 2012. This blog got about 4,100 views in 2012. If every person who reached the top of Mt. Everest viewed this blog, it would have taken 7 years to get that many views.
I received an email yesterday from Philip McKernan, attaching with it, his latest ebook, ‘Dead Man Walking’. I was so excited to read this ebook because I really get what Philip stands for, he is an inspirational human being and I really appreciate his work. His ebook was based around the subject of ‘mindset versus soulset’, and it certainly got my soul searching in such a meaningful way. What I really love about Philip’s ebook is that he shares it with others at no cost and encourages the reader to ‘pay it forward’. I would therefore like to pay this ebook forward to YOU, so please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org if you wish a complimentary copy of this fascinating ebook. You can also check Philip out at his website www.philipmckernan.com – This next poem was inspired by the ebook’s content and I pay this forward to YOU.
A mind that is positive, can take you many ways
A journey of hope, towards better days
But having meaningful, soulset goals
Takes you out of the darkness, makes diamonds out of coals
A miracle happens, inside of your heart
Experiences of fulfillment, from stress you do depart
It takes patience and time, so create the space
To honour your values, take on fears that you face
To be a ‘Dead Man Walking’, feels empty inside
Your soul has the answer, let’s share this worldwide
poemsbyclarabelle, 7 July 2012
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