When you think of a problem you have in your life, don’t just focus on the problem and allow it snowball out of proportion, think of all the possible solutions you have to that problem. Train your mind to become solution focused rather than problem focused and act upon your chosen solution.
There are many solutions to any given problem and the key is to focus on the solution, think about all your options and choose the best option for you going forward.
This evening, that is what I am just going to do, I have a couple of challenges that I want to overcome and I am going to sit down with a pen and paper on focus on the solution. So why don’t you follow me in my footsteps and take action on it today, become a solution focused person and I am sure yourrlife will turn around for the better – just you wait and see.
Expect the unexpected in life, it can shoot you down and leave you in the gutter of despair. I want to tell you something, because I’ve been there and there is always hope, there is always faith and I want you to believe that if you’re feeling like that right now, hold onto the truth of your heart. Work on improving the most important relationship in your life first and that is the relationship with yourself – be your own best friend. I like to pray when I’m feeling like this, so I made up this prayer to share with you in the hope that it may help you during tough times. Prayer truly works for me, I believe and know this and I hope that it works for you too. Lots of love to you today and always, Clarabelle.
Prayer of Courage of Strength
I say this prayer, from the bottom of my heart. And I ask you to help me to stay strong in this time of need. Please help me to overcome these difficult challenges, And become a better person from the lessons therein. Help me to build a loving and empowering relationship with myself, So that I can turn my life around for the better. Give me the courage and strength to forgive and to be forgiven. Let me see the open door in the darkest night Let my heart grow with true love, faith and hope. And may my inner light shine and guide me to all good. I pray that I raise my self belief in my own capabilities and potential. And may this lead me into a happier, healthier and more fulfilling life. Thank you for answering my prayer.
I want to tell you a story, a true story from 22 years ago, it is the story of the day I believe, my best friend saved my life. I just feel I want to share this with you today and I want to dedicate this blog post to Donna my BFF, best friend forever. Thank you for everything and more.
I was 18 when I was in my first very serious car accident, the police officers who visited me in hospital afterwards told me they don’t know how I got out of the car alive, because where I was sitting in the car, there was basically nothing left of it. I remember that evening so clearly, the sounds, the smells, the conversations, every one of my senses seemed to be fully enhanced.
Leading up to it, there was lots of fun, joking around and laughter and then all of a sudden I was squealing in pure agony, trapped in a car I couldn’t get out of. But thankfully I did get out of it and after almost 6 weeks in hospital and one and half years with crutches I managed to make a full recovery and get back on track with my life.
That was the first serious car accident I was in but it is the second car crash that happened four and half months after the first one, that I want to tell you about.
My best friend and I were offered a lift by some other friends, I was in crutches and insisted on sitting in the back of the car behind the drivers seat. There was five of us in the car and my best friend was sitting to the left of me, in the middle seat position. The driver stopped to get petrol and my best friend got out to get some sweets. When she came back she wanted me to move into the middle seat of the car but I didn’t want to go into the middle of the car, she insisted and we had a silly mini argument about it and I had enough and just moved into the middle of the car. No less than 2 minutes later the car crashed and my best friend got the full impact of the car hitting a steel pole in the middle of a roundabout. I was protected because I was in the middle, I did get crushed but with bodies rather than metal and steel. My best friend was in a really bad way, she was lying in the middle of the road and all she kept shouting was “is Claire alright, is Claire alright”. Yes, I was alright in comparison to her. She was taken immediately to intensive care and was put on a life support machine, she was given a very low chance of surviving. We said lots of prayers, I have never said so many prayers in my life so that she would get well again, we were told the chances were very slim but I always believed she would and thankfully she did and she made a full recovery within 6 months.
Saved My Life
I know that my best friend saved my life that night of the second car accident. My body was still in recovery from the first one and I was so weak and thin, if I had been sitting in the same seat, I would never have had the strength to have survived that second car accident. As I shared earlier, my friend insisted on changing seats 2 minutes before the accident happened, I believe my best friend saved my life that day.
We are both fighting fit now and full of health and we often now just laugh and cry about those times, not funny I know but after 22 years you start to look at things a little differently.
It wasn’t our time to go, all those years ago, God had other plans for us. Thank you so much.
Love and Strength of Friendships
I had many dark days when recovering from my accident, many many dark days, lots of tears, lots of frustrations and lots of anger built up inside of me. I was still a teenager and had a great dreams and plans that I thought, at the time, were getting taken away from me. My dad was also suffering from cancer at the time so I think that didn’t help either. Now that I reflect upon it, I think I was a little ignorant and possibly a little bit selfish. I couldn’t see past my own pain and I blamed a lot of external things for my unhappiness. These life experiences, I believe have made me a better and stronger person. My bitter thinking was all wrong at the time, I can see that now and I am sorry I felt that way, but I learned a lot, I learned a lot about myself and about the love and strength of friendships.
I am such a grateful person now, I have so grateful to be alive, to be healthy, to be happy and to still have my best friend in my life……forever 🙂 I treasure everything that I have and I nurture my positive energy every day.
I actually never ever thought I would share this story on my blog, but for some reason it just felt right to share it today.
In life we are faced with many challenges and sometimes at the time we are facing them we don’t see the lesson……but believe me there is a lesson and it will be revealed through time or if we take time out of the equation, through a change in our thinking.
I had a meeting today with a very good friend and colleague of mine, a truly wonderful gentleman who is very kind, caring, a giver of his time, with a head full of knowledge and a heart full of wisdom, he is a very special human being…thank you ‘J’. We got into a discussion about my poetry blog and ‘J’ very kindly said that I speak the ‘language of the heart’ through my creative writings. I loved that phrase and instantly thought, “I’m going to write a poem about that”, and so here it is, with sincere dedication to ‘JM’, thank you for everything.
Language of the Heart
Let the dust settle, before you start,
A journey of hope, language of the heart.
Strapped in tight, on this roller coaster ride,
To-ing and fro-ing, no place to hide.
Some share their secrets, others choose not,
A silent cry for help, raises true thought.
Yet far in the distance, beyond empty dreams,
Appears an angel and true love redeems.
All that is, all that was,
Take a deep breath, put life in pause.
A temporary moment, that challenges your smile,
Will soon fade away, then you’ll smile for a while.
Blue skies will appear, the sun will shine,
Because your spirit is glowing, you are divine.
poemsbyclarabelle, 12 September 2012
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