The Good in Fear

“giving it a go”

A friend once said to me, “I don’t do fear”. I was like, “WOW”, what a way to think! She would share stories with me of times in her life when she faced so much adversity that fear was never an option for her – she had to survive! This woman is one super BRAVE lady!

Today though, as I reflect back on that enlightening conversation, I think of all the times in my younger life when being “fearful” was actually a positive for me.

I was sometimes fearful of my teachers at school, so much so, I would do extra studying after school, just so I could get the teacher’s question right in class. Overall, I think that did me a litte bit of good – especially in Accounts, which I hated but passed with flying colours!

I was lots of times fearful of doing talks and presentations in front of a little or a lot of people. This fear was also good, because it made me practice and practice and PRACTICE in order to improve and become better at it. In a weird sort of way, I still find it easier to talk to a live audience of thousands of people, rather than an intimate bunch of 20. Give me a huge big stage and I’m comfortably on it! I also have a very loud voice and super high energy – so I guess it all fits!

I’m certainly not advocating all fear, I just think, sometimes it can work to your advantage in certain ‘self-development’ circumstances.

Where, I think fear did not work for me, was when I pulled myself out of the running races at School because I knew I wasn’t fast enough to beat some other runners. In my head at the time, I thought, I’m not entering this competition because I won’t win the gold medal and I don’t want silver or bronze – how super childish is that thinking!

That type of silly thinking also straddled into my young work life when I didn’t go for early promotions because I thought other colleagues would get the job over me and I didn’t want to deal with the hurt, embarrassment and rejection. So this type of fear that I am describing, is really NOT good. Thankfully, those types of fear I just don’t have anymore and nothing like that ever holds me back from “giving it a go”.

Today, I am a “face fear head on” type of person – if I’m fearful – then I must do it – that’s it!

Imagine yourself today, STRONG, FEARLESS and POWERFUL – now what you going to do about it?

By Clarabelle, London, UK
Created on 9 August 2022
Posted to Blog on 29 August 2022

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Which Zone Are You In?

comfort zone quote

I want you to think about moving out of your “comfort zone” today and into your “learning/stretch zone”.

Get comfortable being uncomfortable and see where this takes you.

  • Life is an adventure
  • Life is a challenge
  • Life is to be lived
  • Life is to be loved
  • Life is for learning
  • Life is for creating
  • Life is for embracing
  • Life is for YOU

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Learning/Stretch Zone

The best way you can achieve the above experiences is by doing things that will take you into your “learning/stretch zone”.  I’m not talking here about pushing yourself so far that it makes you cry with terror from within, as being in the “panic zone” will NOT serve you well.  I believe that by staying in your “comfort zone” you are not just standing still, you are actually going backwards, as other people move forward into their “learning/stretch zone”.

One Thing

What one thing could you do today that would move you out of your “comfort zone” and into your “learning/stretch zone”.  Go on, seriously think about…..actually don’t just think about it, DO IT!!

Don’t make this a lazy day, make it a LIVELY day and you’ll definitely feel the difference.

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Be fearless….

“Be fearless and let love guide you.”

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