Don’t let your environment dictate your bad habits – you need to think and do GREAT things for yourself.
The environment that you spend most of your time in can be a huge influence in your life and it might not be positive.
Think about daily habits that don’t serve you well and you can probably link them to being in a certain environment or around certain people. You may think you have control over your “doing” but I bet you, when you really think about it, you are most definitely picking up bad habits from others.
I am not saying here to put the “blame” on others – that’s one thing I am very opposed to but I am saying, you WILL be infuenced everyday – positively or negatively, whether you realise it or not.
I can totally vouch for myself here, especially during my Secondary School days when I went against the true essence of me and picked up some terrible bad habits from the age of 14. Thankfully, as I became more confident, especially from the age of 26, I started to change my bad habits into better ones that had a real positive influence on my life.
Below are some real examples of bad habits that I had which I then changed to positive ones:
I watched far too much junk TV, so I got rid of my TV, which in turn, gave me so much extra time, that I started this Clarabelle blog. Taking up writing, gives me so much fulfillment and the articles hopefully help others too. I have been doing this for over 10 years.
I also got “off the couch” every evening after work and took up running outdoors and going to the gym – this led me onto running four marathons and raising lots of money for charity along the way. I still run outdoors twice week and I love it! I have been running outdoors since 2007.
I moved to a different country – a few times – and this got me “out of a rut” and gave me so much self-belief and confidence. The moving to a different location, led me to start my Greeting Card Business, which is now progressing very well on Amazon & Etsy. I now live in London after living in Bonny Scotland for 40 years of my life. I am not frightened to move again – I actually enjoy the new challenge and adventure of being in a different place and starting from scratch.
I never want to settle with bad habits – I just don’t like it! I always want to strive for better and get the best out of life.
Think about your habits today – are they serving you well and getting you to where you want to go in life?
The habit of a habit, can move you up or pull you backwards – it’s for you to decide, which way you want to go.
Remember . . . . It’s Your Life – GO GET IT!
By Clarabelle, London, UK Created on 22 August 2022 Posted to Blog on 17 September 2022
Are you feeling a little unfulfilled in your work life? That can be very normal and can also be changed, albeit, where applicable.
Focus on what you can control in your workplace and also on what you can control, outside of work. This is one great way of accepting responsibility for taking positive action and not wasting your time and energy on things you just cannot control.
Think about purposeful and meaningful ways you can contribute to your work environment and/or job tasks. This will definitely make you feel a lot better and your work will most definitely benefit too.
In situations, where your work has closed the door on being a more fulfilling workplace for you – then think about what you can contribute to outside of work that offers you a more enriching life experience.
Please don’t go blaming your boss for work tasks that you initially signed up for and that now don’t ‘rock your boat’. Take responsibility for your own choices and decisions in life – this is a must!
Work your best with what you’ve got and gradually make small but impactful changes to enhance your life.
There are many options for you to explore here and it’s important you take the time to think about all the pros and cons of going one way or the other.
Bit by bit, if you really put the effort in, you will change things for the better. Dedicate time today to plan your future needs and wants – then jump to it!
It’s Your Life – GO GET IT!
By Clarabelle, London, UK Created on 5 August 2022 Posted to blog on 24 August 2022
The mind is like a loose cannon, if you don’t control its direction, goodness knows where you’ll end up. A lot of change and unsettlement can unrest the mind and may not feel really good. The first step is being aware that your current thinking isn’t serving you well and then you must take steps to put it back on track. Whatever that is for you. I have a few personal strategies in place that work for me when my mind runs away with crazy stupid thoughts that I know I don’t benefit from. Motivational anything does it for me, I have figured out that if I am around motivational people, motivational words, I watch or read anything motivational it inspires me to take control of my thinking so that it serves me best. So I will end this short blog post today with some motivational words for you today, here goes:
You gotta help yourself, you gotta believe that you can change for the better, you gotta feel it in your heart and have deep faith that better days are on their way to an even better YOU. You gotta start with any type of negative thinking that doesn’t serve you well, you gotta replace that thinking with more positive thoughts, more positive intentions and you’ve gotta do whatever you need to do to change it up for yourself, to make it better, to turn each dull moment into a brighter sunny day. You don’t need to wait for the sun to come out, it’s already there, shining inside of you. Believe me, if you master your thoughts, you’re half way there to entering the door of your dreams.
And remember, you don’t always need to look outside for the sun.
A little bit of motivation goes a long long way. I love anything motivational and inspirational, so much so that I’ve got to get my daily fix. I usually listen to 1-2 hours of motivational stuff when I wake up in the morning and then often listen to more throughout the day when I can. Below is a list of just some of my favourite motivational and inspirational people:
This helps me to stay super focused on developing myself in order to achieve my goals and dreams in life. This journey of life can mess with your heart and mind sometimes – if you let it, so I believe it’s always good to have a mechanism or process that works for you to get you “back on track”.
My original music and poetry comes from a peaceful place in my heart and soul and I would definitely say that “hanging around” everyday with the above inspirational people has certainly helped me to achieve that and believe in myself.
So get yourself on to YouTube today and check these guys out because I know if you listen to what they have to say it will inspire you for the rest of your life.
Keep going my friends…..keep going…..keep going….and be grateful for what you have along the way.
Gratitude is in my heart, it is part of my me and is such an important core value to me. I want to share with you today an extract from my eBook, “It’s All About Gratitude”, this is one of the daily gratitude exercises that you can practice in your life today.
“Walk of Gratitude
Take a walk outside and bask in the beauty of nature around you. For every bird that you see, I want you to say “thank you” with every part of your heart and soul. Feel deep gratitude for being alive in this very moment and for being part of this beautiful Universe. You are a living witness to the magic and the wonders of the world around you. Feel blessed in this moment, feel gratitude for it all, right now. Feel at one with yourself and feel the peace in your heart as you do so, the magic of gratitude is breathing beautiful energy into you. ” (extract from It’s All About Gratitude, page 58)
Try this exercise out today and please let me know how it makes you feel…..I am positive it will do wonders for your wellbeing and inner happiness.
There are many things that have helped me to stay grounded, mindful in the moment and to feel truly blessed for what I already have in my life. Yes, I want to achieve my dreams and become a very successful Singer-Songwriter but it’s so important to enjoy the NOW as much as I can. I want to enjoy and embrace each baby step of the way.
My Grateful Heart
One thing that has really helped me on this journey is my grateful heart. Everyday I practice the art of being grateful for everything I already have in my life and even if I’m having a tough day, thinking about what I am grateful for, instantly uplifts my mood.
My attitude of gratitude really became more intense after reading the book, “The Magic” by Rhonda Byrne, Rhonda is also the Author of the famous books “The Secret”, “The Power” and “Hero”, which I have also read. The book, “The Magic”, I feel came at the right time in my life and it inspired me so much that I decided I wanted to write my own book about Gratitude and its positive benefits.
The Science Behind Gratitude
So for 4 months I studied and researched further into it….I looked into, “The Science Behind Gratitude” and what other credible successful Professionals and famous individuals were saying about it, such as Oprah Winfrey, Dr. Brene Brown, Deepak Chopra, Dr Robert Emmons, Jack Canfield….. and the list goes on – I share some of what they say in my eBook.
My Dream Journey
I truly believe that being grateful everyday has catapulted me even further on my dream journey of Singing-Songwriting, I just know this. I feel this dream of mine evolved from starting this blog in April 2012 and it is the visitors and followers of this blog that I am so grateful for, over 23,000 hits and counting!!. You have inspired me to “keep going” so I only felt it was fitting and right do dedicate my Gratitude eBook to you, so I did, thank you. 🙂
How Do I Practice Gratitude?
This is a question that hopefully I answer for you within the eBook. There is a full section (photo above) on this with a number of practical gratitude exercises for you to do. It really is important you do them though because it’s like creating a new habit and embedding a new behaviour and positive way of thinking into your heart, mind and soul. Once that spiritual connection of a grateful heart is made, just you see the good things that come into your life….and they will!!
Where Can I Get Your eBook?
The eBook is available from Amazon Kindle (Kindle format) and Gumroad (pdf format) and costs less than a cup of coffee from Starbucks and less than a Happy Meal from MacDonalds and believe me this eBook will make you much happier…..and for the long term!! Click on the appropriate link below to find out more about, It’s All About Gratitude eBook and to instantly download :
I thought I would share some poetry with you today. I hope you like it and may you embrace “The Unknown Road”. Much love to you today, as always, Clarabelle.
The Unknown Road
The unknown road, with its turns and twists. Victory till the end, it’s fighting fists. Darkness may fall, but within, is a light. It leads the way, like a shining knight. It takes no prisoners, it wins no wars. This path to almighty, has invisible corridors. And the only way, to find your way out. Is to believe in you. Have faith, no doubt. The self is strong, heart moves your soul. Feel your way through, Let love be your goal.
By Clarabelle, 12 February 2014
When you go for your dreams and goals in life you inspire others by your own doing. They see you moving forward in your own journey in life and it can truly inspire them too.
I have received some lovely messages from people who have shared with me that because I am going for my own dreams and goals in life, it is inspiring them to do that too. Isn’t that such a lovely thing. So by not only changing your own life for the better, you are also inspiring change in others. Like a beautiful ripple effect, your positive energy touches the hearts of others.
This is such wonderful thing and I truly do encourage you to just go for it in life because by doing so, you will also inspire others around you – this is the most amazing thing about it all.
Dreams are for the taking, don’t let them lie dormant in your heart, set your spirit free, jump on that cloud and fly towards them. What are you waiting for? Just do it!! The poem below is inspired by just that. Much love to you today, Clarabelle
I Dreamed a Dream
I dreamed a dream, thought impossible today. The essence of paradise, a beautiful way.
I dreamed a dream, of hope and forgiving. Captivating hearts, extraordinary living.
I dreamed a dream, of future smiles. Love and laugher, going on for miles.
I dreamed a dream, it swirls around me. A life changing dream. I know this will be.
“Love is a force more formidable than any other. It is invisible – it cannot be seen or measured, yet it is powerful enough to transform you in a moment, and offer you more joy than any material possession could.”Barbara de Angelis
Where are you inspiration?
I searched and searched you know, looking for that one piece of inspiration, that one trigger, that sentiment of hope that would help me to turn my life around. I searched long and hard, night and day……..I struggled to find it. Where are you inspiration, when I need you the most, where are you to help me get back up again? And the search continued…….
So, where do you go from here?
Now, I know the answer, but at that difficult time, there was no way I was going to find it, because there was too much noise, too much desperation, too much struggle, not enough head space, not enough belief, not enough faith, focus on pain and negativity….how was I going to find inspiration amongst all that? Just like finding a needle in a haystack, I was unaware at the time, but I had given myself such a mammoth task. So where do you go from here? When you feel you’ve hit rock bottom and the punches keep coming, the waves get bigger and bigger and you forget how to swim….what happens next?
Yes, it does have a happy ending.
I’ll tell you what happens next, you sleep, long deep sleeps, it helps you to forget, it allows you to avoid your own perception of reality when you sleep, and when you wake up, you want to sleep again. To be alone is your saving grace, or at least that’s what you think….but being alone too long can be dangerous, because you get swamped in the quicksand of fear. I have stopped writing right now, because it is making me cry, taking me back to those dreadful feelings…but only for a short, sharp moment, because I am better now and I am telling the survival story – yes, it does have a happy ending. Yes, yes, YES.
Would you believe me if I said, going into this downward spiral, that my mind was strong and my attitude was positive….I honestly believe it was, but even for Miss Positivity the cracks did show. Up, down, up, down, down, down, up, up, down, up…..I was a seesaw of emotions in action…sometimes good, often not so good. For every positive thought I tried to focus on, in flowed a river of negative thoughts……I knew it wasn’t good, I knew I had to do something, anything as I cried out for help at night…. my pillow drenched with tears.
Explorer of the courageous soul
Let me fast forward for a moment, today I am in such a good place, the best I have ever felt for such a long time, even when I thought I was at my happiest, possibly in 2007, I am aware now that it was all external happiness, this time it’s different, this time it is internal, my happiness is coming from within………….and the irony is, that I would never have discovered that place, if I had given up at the toughest of times. You see I am a fighter, ‘never die’ kind of person, if there was a glimmer of hope, I was surely going to find it. This to me was the ‘battle of the brave’, ‘the explorer of the courageous soul’, ‘the underdog who discovered paradise’, ‘the barefooted soldier coming out from the trenches’, ‘the white flag surrendering my heart to the universe’, ‘the first baby step of a journey that never ends’…..there is no destination… just creative imagination and infinite expression of the true self. And so the story continues…..
This is only temporary
To combat the bruises of stress, there were many things that helped me on my way, daily gratitude, forcing myself to spend time with family and friends, daily exercise, daily meditation, daily prayer for self and for others, good nutrition, acceptance of the situation, learning to face up to my fears, letting go of the emotions that were not serving me well, continuously asking myself questions until the right ones connected with me, painting a picture of my future dreams in alignment with my core values, nurturing my inner belief and self confidence, being honest with myself, allowing myself to be vulnerable, giving myself permission to forgive, believing that I could change the current situation, telling myself “this is only temporary”, building up trust in myself and regaining the faith that I knew was always there, identifying my strengths, surrounding myself with anything and everything inspirational, telling myself “keep going, keep going”…….
But most of all, MOST of all, the turning point….the tipping point….the true trigger point…. was believing that I am truly loved, knowing that I was on the path to love, knowing that I was and am love and ultimately the giver of love. Love redeems all, there is nothing more powerful than love, nothing else will reach that sweet spot like genuine love for self and others. Love was the answer, love is the answer, love was and is the ultimate trigger of transformation and transcendence into who I am today, me with no role, no identity, no ego, just me…that is the place, that is forever inspiring, that isparadise and me.
Stand in front of the mirror today and tell yourself a more positive story. Look at the beauty in your eyes, feel the love in your heart and the faith in your soul. See how very special you are, you are unique and you have the greatest potential to be whatever you want to be. This next poem is for you because it’s all about telling yourself a different story……let this be your true love story to yourself. Love Clarabelle.
I Am Sorry
I am sorry, for the hurt and the pain
Sorry for, the sleepless night again
Sorry for, the tears that fall
Sorry when, I missed the call
Sorry for, the past so bleak
Sorry for, being so weak
Sorry for, the yes and no
Sorry that, I didn’t show
I look in the mirror, there I see
I am talking out loud, only to me What if I change these words I say? What if I think in a different way?
I am happy, because I have a lot
I am grateful, for all I’ve got
I am beautiful, inside and out
I am kind, I have no doubt
I am strong and believe in me
I am everything, I want to be
I’m changing my story, look at my face
I’m smiling with confidence, in this place
I see the light, my goals appear
Visions of hope and faith are here
Words have power, choose them well
Start your day, in heaven not hell
Shower yourself, with positive thoughts
Banish the worries, untangle the knots
Wake up, to a brand new you
Shine in this moment and all you do
Most people spend more time planning their yearly holiday/vacation that they do their life.
What do I mean by life planning?
I believe it is about YOU exploring some of the the following things:
Looking at want you specifically want from life.
What experiences you want to have?
What contribution you want to make?
Identifying and understanding your core values.
Living your life in alignment with your core values.
Aligning your goals and desires to these.
Making a plan of action on how you are going to achieve that.
Putting the plan into action i.e do the “doing part”.
Measuring progress along the way.
Reflecting on your learning experiences.
Continuously developing and implementing feedback.
Reviewing and fine tuning your goals along the way.
Setting an appropriate timescale for achieving these goals
Some of you may not know this, but I am a fully qualified Coach (Executive, Life & Career), I have had my own Coaching, Leadership/Management Training and Human Resources Business since 2008. I work with clients in business and privately on the above stuff, I also do tons of work on this myself for my own self development.
If you don’t make a plan or set goals for yourself it can be really easy to “just drift by”, like a cloud in the sky and sometimes helping other people to live out their dreams more than your own. I am all for helping people with their dreams but this should not be at the detriment to your own self.
Take some time today to think about what you REALLY want from life and how to live your life more in alignment with your core values. When you do this you will be moving more towards long term life fulfillment rather than just quick fixes and short bursts of happiness.
Maybe just maybe your were meant to read this post today and maybe just maybe it will inspire you to take that first step towards living the life you truly desire and truly deserve. Don’t be a drifting cloud in the sky, be that SUN shining bright and full of forever happiness.
Do one thing today that makes you happy, I mean something you haven’t done for a while, something that you’ve missed doing, something that you enjoy doing. Today make some time to do that. Often we get so caught up in our busy lives we forget the special ‘me‘ time that we all deserve. Just for today do that one thing that makes you happy – I know you will be glad you did.
A few years ago I always used to say this quote to people, “It doesn’t matter where you are but who you are with that matters.” Yes, I do feel partly true but as I have become more spiritually aware and grown as a person I would now change that quote to this:
“It doesn’t matter where you are or who you are with, it matters how you are feeling.”
One for you to think about today.
Happiness comes from within and if you are in a super grumpy mood or feeling really low it will not matter where you are or who you are with, it will not change your experience until you change your thinking from within, which then in turn will change how you feel and what you do. Remember this THINK, FEEL, DO in that order.
Wishing you a beautiful day today and I do hope you are feeling positive and uplifted and if you are then I guess you are thinking that way. 🙂
As you know I have been writing a lot of my own songs recently and the first few that I wrote about were love songs and then I went through a phase of writing some more motivational songs. This next song that I share with you below is one of the more motivational songs, it is called “C’mon You”. For those of you who are not familiar with the Scottish banter, “C’mon” means “come on” and in this song it really means “lift yourself up and get a move on, get back in the game”. I hope you like it. So wherever you are today and whatever you are doing I hope you make it a “C’mon You” day. Lots of love to you Clarabelle.
Here are the lyrics for you, so you can sing along if you wish 🙂
C’mon You by Claire Marie Murray 22.07.13
Let me tell you a story
Life may beat you down
But you don’t have to take no more
Just let your spirit shine
Believe in your passion
You can have it all
Show a little compassion
Break down the tough brick wall
So C’mon, you can do it
C’mon, this I know
C’mon, yesterday’s over
Oh C’mon you, let’s go
So now I’ve shared my journey
Go and live and your life
Time it will not wait for you
You won’t be living twice
Know that you can do it
You can achieve it all
Hard work will get you through it
Soon you’ll be standing tall
So C’mon, you can do it
C’mon, this I know
C’mon, yesterday’s over
Oh C’mon you, let’s go
C’mon life aint gonna wait for you
Get back up – you can do
All you put your mind to
When you feel pain, see it through
Chorus (to fade)
So C’mon, you can do it
C’mon, this I know
C’mon, yesterday’s over
Oh C’mon you, let’s go (repeat to fade)
Since January last year I have been making a lot of changes in my life, the inner changes came first and then the outer changes started to happen. I decided that before I made any outer changes I ensured I was happy on the inside first, so I did a lot of work on my “soul development” and I truly feel more like,well, “me”. 🙂
One of the changes that I wanted to make and was genuinely excited to make, was changing my hair colour from black to blonde and I want to share with you a photo of the transformation process (below). I love my new blonde look, it hasn’t made me any happier from within because I was already happy but it has given me a renewed and re-energised feeling – “out with the old and in with the new” and I feel really great.
I love my hairdresser, I think she did a really great job as it has been a long process to get there over a 6 week period, thank you Yvonne Lennon Holton and such a great friend too.
What do you think of my new blonde look?
I want you to think about this, before you make any external changes in your life think about how happy you feel first on the inside. I urge you to make the inside changes first and then you know that any external changes you make after that, will be an added bonus to your already happy self.
Wishing you a day filled with inner happiness and contentment, lots of love to you today, Clarabelle.
On my bus journey back from my weekend in Manchester I decided to write some poems for you. Below is the first one I wrote, I think because I definitely feel like a positive energy bubble at the moment and I hope you do too. Much love to you today, Clarabelle.
Positive Energy Bubble
Positive energy bubble
Is where I like to live
Brighter than a star
Happiness I give
Attracting always good
Living life to the full
Be a positive energy bubble
It’s funky, hip and cool
At the beginning of every month I give you a question to ponder and considering answering for yourself and I also share my own answer with you. Below is this month’s question:
When was the last time you laughed and I mean like a good old “belly laugh”?
I honestly do laugh every day, however the last time I remember having a good old “belly laugh” was when I visited my mum recently for a cup of tea, we were having a nice chat and she said something that surprised me, it was so unexpected I could not stop laughing and because I was laughing so much she couldn’t stop laughing either. I am even laughing thinking about it now.
Life can be oh too serious at times and sometimes you just need to laugh out loud, go on have a laugh with your friends today, watch a funny movie or listen to your favourite comedian, whatever it is just you make sure you laugh then I know you will feel amazing.
May this month of August be filled with sweet laughter for you.
I woke up before my alarm went off this morning, I love it when that happens. I looked out of the window and the morning sun shines brightly on my beautiful little garden, I am grateful for this day, I am grateful for the magic in the air….I am grateful. Here is a little poem I wrote for you, wishing you a wonderful day wherever you are in the world. Lots of love, Clarabelle
Is This An Illusion
The purest blue
I’ve ever seen
No clouds going by
The air is clean
Dew glistens, upon the trees
Hi hear her whispers
Like honey bees
Her sound is high
Far into the sky
Of time gone by
And all she thinks
Is all she sees Is this an illusion
I ask you please
She likes it here
She likes it all
She’s feeling good
She’s standing tall
Her spirit flows
Like the river in her heart
Mystical and magical
Her dreams play the part
I have a lovely feeling of peace and contentment flowing through my body this morning, I am aware of it and treasure it right now. I just had to write, here is what came out. I hope you enjoy. May your happy spirit touch other hearts today. Love Clarabelle
Peace in her Heart
She woke up, with peace in her heart today
No inner battles, in her way
The fight has gone, war no more
Everything leads, to the fulfilment door
Now it’s different, now she can see
That an opened heart, will let this be
She knows that her gift, travels afar
She knows that her energy, raises the bar
And as the soft wind blows, contentment plays a tune
Happiness in the air, goodnight Mr Moon
This misty morning, is full of white
She feels its presence, she is the light
Her breath is silent, and simply pure
Because she is so certain, she is so sure
That all her dreams, are alive inside
The vision is here, nothing to hide
For her soul is connected, dancing free
Her spirit is full, of happy energy
But who is, this miracle she?
She can be “he” and she is “me”
I love this chart above, it was passed to me by one of my clients who has been working with an expert on leading change. I love it so much that I carry this little chart about with me everywhere now, I often look at it to measure where my mood is at. Earlier today, I had identified my mood as being -1 Impatient, Frustrated, I know why, I was putting too much energy and focus on a situation that did not serve me well, I changed focus and it then gradually moved up to +6 Resourceful and in this moment in time I am at +8 Wise, Insightful. Try it for yourself, print off the chart, cut it out and put it in your wallet/purse and test yourself throughout the day in terms of where your mood is at, it is very enlightening and will help you to reflect on where your current focus is – Is it serving you well or not?
Have fun with it, work on increasing your mood and I then reckon much more positive actions will come from this.
Thank you for reading this post – ah now I am +9 Grateful, THANK YOU, Clarabelle.
Don’t let life pass you by, do all you can to make it a great life, think about who or what inspires your soul, what connects your spirit to another dimension, what gives you that feeling of excitement inside……..hold on to that thought, embrace that special feeling because that’s who you are, that’s what makes you YOU.
There is a special something inside of you, a precious gift that is waiting to be unwrapped, unfold it gently and release its magic into the Universe. I see it now, I see you sparkling and glistening, touching other happy spirits and uplifting the temporary broken ones.
Close your eyes right now, feel that special gift inside of you, let this unique feeling penetrate every part of your being, let it flow, let it out, let it dance with the stars under the moonlit sky……your light is special, like no other light, let it glow.
I know you are smiling now, you feel it, you believe it, now let the people of this world welcome it with open arms.
May you have a truly magical weekend, only you can make it magical, do it and don’t let life pass you by.
Thank you Universe for making this a truly MAGICAL weekend for me and for you.
I am big on personal development, it is a massive thing for me, so so so important. I also believe patience and timing is so important too. Mix these things together and you get the following quote:
“Be patient, give the seed time to take root and grow…..then you WILL flourish like never before”. (Clarabelle)
Please don’t rush the journey, enjoy the now, enjoy the learning and enjoy the growth, there is a much bigger plan for you, the Universe is bringing it to you, all in good time my friend, all in good time. 🙂
I am having a serious chat with myself today, I have the energy and enthusiasm to really move forward in life, to achieve all that I want to achieve, to embrace life and all its challenges and to breathe in the most beautiful view from the top of the highest mountain.
The conversation I am having with myself today is this:
“Out with the old and make room for the new“, this is a MUST for me, old everything is going, I have to make room for the new, it needs the space to thrive, it needs space to breathe and it needs me to create the space for it. This new energy will bring an abundance of everything I’ve ever wanted and I know NOW is the time to make room for it. I need to get out of my own way and just do it. This is serious stuff, this is MY LIFE, there is no going back, there is only right now and the dreams that I hold in my heart. I will make this change for myself, I will clear out ALL of the old and welcome the new with true love, open arms and a warm smile.
I sincerely challenge you today, to have a serious conversation with yourself:
What do you need to do?
What do you need to commit to?
What fears do you have to face that are holding you back?
Now is the time, this moment is all we have, DO IT FOR YOU, it’s your life GO GET IT!!
Wishing you a beautiful day today filled with committed action and inspiration that will live in your heart forever. Lots of love, Clarabelle
Whatever the weather outside, please know that there is always sun shining in your heart, creating warmth and pure energy wherever you go. Feel your inner glow right now, believe that there is no special secret to a fulfilling life, you have all the answers you need, at this very moment. You don’t need fixing, you just need to illuminate the strength from within your soul, it is this strength that touches others in a moving and inspirational way because we are all connected and your happiness is my happiness too. This next poem is inspired by just that, may every part of your being today sparkle in the fresh air. Much love to you, Clarabelle.
Sunshine in her Heart
She talks with sunshine, in her heart,
Love flows freely, a connected part.
In the darkest of days, she sees the star,
Bringing it closer, from travels afar.
Imagination sparkles, in every thought,
Happiness in the moment, that cannot be bought.
She is special, she holds cares in the clouds,
Enlightened moments, from amongst the crowds.
Where does this come from? How did it grow?
What does she feed it, for true love to flow?
There is no secret, or special mix,
The solution is insider her, and there’s nothing to fix.
“If we return to what we walked away from, out of fear, and for comfort, our growth will become a vision of the past.”
When our spirit becomes caged by life circumstances; a soft tug from our heart-strings will pull us into our desired direction to where we can be set free. But along the way of our new path, there will be moments of difficulty that will trigger fear, and past reflections, of only happy memories that will try to pull us back into our cage… and if we return, we will find our self sitting in our cage, and reflecting on when we used to fly.
We must keep moving forward to soar higher in flight, by embracing the fears of the unknown future, for they will always try to tell us that the cage was cozy, but in reality, flying is our only freedom.
Every person you have not connected with yet is a potential friend, companion, confidante or seed of change. There is indeed a friend in each stranger and every day we let potential friends pass us by. A gentle smile towards another can surely make their day, for a smile is one form of communication that no matter what the language barrier, it will always warm another’s heart.
My heart speaks to you today, it is graciously smiling like an upside down rainbow – colourful, magical and beaming with joy. There is much beauty to be found in the stranger by your side, this next poem is inspired by just that. Pay your smile forward today and spread a little happiness. Much love to you Clarabelle.
There’s a Friend in Each Stranger
There’s a friend in each stranger, look and see,
Be brave, take a chance, with he or she.
It may lead to forever or a short term thought,
But if you look at the positive, you’ll find such a lot.
Welcome a new world, from inside their eyes,
Exchange happy moments, desires or surprise.
Be truthful and listen, for their heart will speak,
You are amazing, unique and very special indeed, there is no one else exactly like you. You have the capacity to achieve all that you have ever dreamed of, I want you to visualise that now, see yourself in that place of abundance, love and lots of beautiful laughter. Yesterday is now a distant a memory, tomorrow is not here yet, embrace today, welcome the NOW with open arms, go out for a walk and let the gentle breeze outside blow away the remaining cobwebs.
Awakening Your Soul
Right now, I want you to take 3 long deep breaths, inhale positivity and exhale worries and stress, give yourself a pat on the shoulder and smile……this is your first step to feeling alive in this moment, awakening your soul and freeing your spirit to the thriving energy of the Universe.
This next poem is for you, I wrote it especially for you, because you are so special to me and you are truly loved in this world, more that you will ever know. Believe that someone out there right now is thinking of you and holds you very close to their heart.
Have a beautiful day today my friends. Much love to you Clarabelle.
This is a blog post from an old blog of mine, I wrote this post in April 2010, 2 years prior to me starting this poetry blog. I thought I would share this with you because it is amazing how life evolves as we grow and develop. If someone had told me back then that I would now have a poetry blog and was so commited and passionate about it, I would never have believed them…..my creative writing desires are stronger than ever. We are all on a journey of personal evolution, much of this will be invisible for you right now, who knows what great things you will be part of in a few years from now. Much love to you today. Clarabelle
Below is that original post from April 2010:
I absolutely LOVE my job but it wasn’t an easy job getting here—it took me 36 years of learning, being, doing, hoping, having, not having, feeling and experiencing the highs and lows of real life and work. It is only now that I feel wise enough and knowledgeable enough to share this experiential learning.
When I Grow UP I want to be…..
From the age of 5—15 years I went through different phases of wanting to be a Mum, Air Steward, Dancer, Model, Nun, Song Writer (I had a real desire to write the winning Eurovision song – still do!!), Primary School Teacher, Nursery Nurse and a Secretary. So where did my early career ideas come from, maybe………
Mum: Watching my mum lovingly support and care for our family; wanting to be just like my mum and also being the proud owner of various dolls such as (in its day) the famous ’Tiny Tears’.
Air Steward: Wanting a ‘glamorous’ lifestyle (perceived) and the opportunity to travel all over the world, maybe even marry a pilot!! I also think the popular TV advert for Caledonian Airlines had a big influence….I remember wanting to be a ‘Caledonian Girl’.
Dancer: I was a massive fan of the hit TV Programme ’Fame’ and loved dancing from an early age – still do 🙂
Model: Watching Miss World on TV and aspiring to be like one of these beautiful woman. I wanted to wear that crown!!!
Nun: There was a real religious influence here from my childhood days, in particular at Primary School and I went through a really ’holy’ stage—that was until I discovered my like for boys!!
Songwriter: I used to lock myself in my bedroom for hours and make up songs, I would practice and practice them all day long and never got bored of it—this was a perfect escapism for me at such a young age. To this very day I still remember the songs and so do my closet friends. We often burst into these songs after a few wines!!
Primary School Teacher: I used to babysit for my next door neighbour when I was in my early teens—I loved watching their 3 kids, probably because I could be a ‘big kid’ myself. This inspired me to want to teach young children to learn and develop—I then found out that I would need to study for a further 5 years after Secondary School and this sadly (at the time) put me off.
Nursery Nurse: Again my love for children and helping them to learn and have fun. My Guidance Teacher at Secondary School totally put me off the idea “that’s not the career for you he said, that’s not a good job”. How easily influenced I was as a teenager.
Secretary: Well I figured I would go with the safe bet and be a secretary, after all I was good at typing, passed all my Secretarial Studies exams with flying colours and oh yes my mum did that when she left school and she told me fabulous stories about her career in this field. That was it at the age of 15 I aspired to be a secretary. Well there was nothing else, was there……???
My Career Path
So I finally had come to the idea that I would be a Secretary. So I went to typing College to learn how to touch-type—this proved to be a very worthwhile skill to have during all my future jobs. What where they? Well, my career experience consists of:
Shop assistant, sales representative, hotel waitress, 20 years of various office type jobs from receptionist through to human resource management. A couple of these jobs which I liked and some others I have quite closely hated.
An Independent Decision
Then at the age of 34 I decided to think very carefully about my future career and where it was heading. Why then? Well lots of reasons I believe, but I think coming out of some personal turmoil combined with some major achievements made me a much stronger person with a really determined ‘can do’ attitude.
This included personal triumphs and goals such as Graduating from University in 2005 in Personnel Practice, running the New York marathon in 2007 (I then later did the London Marathon in 2010) and Graduating again from University in 2008 in Human Resource Management. It was in 2006/7 when I seriously reflected on my future and felt much more equipped to correctly answer the following question…….
So what do I really want to do when I grow up?
To answer this, I identified my core values and what they meant to me, I looked at what job activities I particularly enjoyed doing, I thought about what are my strengths, what was I truly passionate about doing, what excites me in life, where did I want to see myself 5-20 years from now and the ultimate question: How was I going to get there?
I had a real belief and confidence in myself and I knew I wanted to have the freedom to explore new territories, learn new things and meet new people. I knew that I wanted to help other people achieve their dreams, goals and aspirations in life. I wanted to coach and mentor people to do just that, I got excited about the thought of it and felt strongly passionate about it. I was truly ready for this and felt fully motivated and inspired to do so.
What did I do?
I researched into Coaching, I wrote to no less then 200 practicing coaches in America asking for their advice, I then went to New York and met some of those coaches, left my full-time job as Human Resource Manager, studied for a further year and achieved a Diploma in Coaching at Distinction level (94%), started up my own business at the end of 2008 and that’s where I am at the moment. I have BIG plans for the business and I know that I will only achieve this through hard work and commitment. To be honest, at times it feels like starting all over again—to what it was like over 20 years ago.
What have been the best parts of my job so far?
Most definitely supporting and empowering other people to achieve their dreams, goals and aspirations in life. Almost 90% of my work to date has been career/business/leadership goals related and with my Human Resource Management background and sound coaching and mentoring experience—it works very well and benefits my clients greatly.
Also being my own boss and having the freedom to use my creativity and innovation to lead the business into great things that will inspire others to achieve great things for themselves.
I have learned so much over the last 17 months of my business (to date almost 5 years!!) and I feel very proud to say that I have video blogged my real time journey all along the way. My vision is that one day it will be professionally edited and shared with you at home in the format of a short film/documentary.
But………what about being a Songwriter?
Hey, I can still do that, my career ain’t over yet, it is just at the beginning—the true beginning.
On 29 March 2013 – Clarabelle says:
I have now had my business for almost 5 years and I still continue to love it…….I am also planning another business which is indirectly linked. I must say however that nothing at the moment, beats the feeling of writing for this blog and getting messages from other bloggers and readers out there……you are magnificent in every sense of the word and my heart and soul is touched everyday with your responses. I see my future in this blog and I do hope you join me on the journey.
Thank you for reading this post today, lots of love Clarabelle.
Every month I shall be posting a poem/article from a guest blogger. If you are interested in becoming a guest blogger on this blog, please note your interest on the comments section below or email me at email@example.com
May I introduce you to a wonderful and talented poet, Maureen Turner. I know you will love Maureen’s work, she is such a beautiful and heartfelt writer.
Having had tragic circumstances to deal with in my life with the sudden loss of my twin brother, husband and father all within a close space of time, I felt I had to write down some of my thoughts in the form of a poem to try and give me strength to get through such sad times, I feel that poetry helped me express my emotions and hopefully will encourage others to read them and take strength from them to carry on each day and look at every day as a blessing, I now try and look at life in a more positive way and have realised that through time we all get stronger.
In our lives the sun may shine, some days I wonder why not in mine. with a spring in your step, you go about your day, but what about those who are not made that way.
Sharing your laugh and sharing your smile, means a lot to those who haven’t felt that in a while, they say try to be bubbly, try to be fun, but that’s really hard when you live a life where there is no sun.
Look in the mirror say what you see, tell yourself is that really me,the frown on my face those unlit eyes, what happened to that smile that could light up the skies.
Pick yourself up get back on track, watch out my girl or you’ll take a step back. So here I am smiling today and I have to tell myself ‘there is no other way’.
Copyright: Maureen Turner
Maureen has created a beautiful ebook of her own poems and if you would like to know more about Maureen’s work, please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and I will certainly put you in touch with her.
Below is a post taken from an older blog of mine…..I don’t use this blog any more however I feel some of the more empowering posts from it would be really good to share on here. This post was originally written in 2009, I hope it makes you think a little differently. Go for your goals today. Love Clarabelle.
Today, I was at the beach watching a little girl chase her father’s remote controlled car around in circles. She kept jumping forward and falling on her knees in an effort to catch the car as it skidded by. She did this 31 times and failed. But on attempt number 32, she caught the car. [Makes Me Think (MMT), Marc and Angel]
If only as adults we were sometimes as brave and determined as that young child and then maybe our fear of failure would not inhibit us from our most greatest life successes. How many times have we as adults only have had to fail once and then we never try or do again? What made that little girl not give up after the first time? I think for sure she was enjoying the journey of her learning experience and having lots of fun, fun, fun with her father. I also think she did not care about what anybody else thought. She had no negative thoughts in her mind preventing her from continuing and no limiting beliefs blocking her path. She sounded excited, happy and free to never give up—even after 31 times.
What have you prevented yourself from doing after falling at the first hurdle?
What would it mean for you to get back up, stand tall, be confident and embrace the opportunities that lie ahead?
Surely in every failure there is a lesson to be learned and by applying the lessons second or third time around maybe, just maybe, your outcome would be different every time, and every time I bet you would get closer to your goal.(Claire Murray)
“It only takes one person to change your life—YOU” [Ruth Casey]
I believe YOU have a magnificent capacity to grow and fulfill your potential. Yes, sometimes there are barriers in the way but only YOU can break these barriers down. Ahh! But! I hear you say ‘it just ain’t that easy’ – you’re telling me!! Sometimes your greatest learning will come from your own failures or learning from other peoples’ failures. Moving towards the fear is one of those inner challenges which seems so much easier to avoid. But when you go against your core values it tears a part of you away and day by day your true identity slips into the hands of others.
Do you really want to reach the age of 90 and discover through your REGRET that it could all have been different if you only remained true to yourself and took action.
So here comes the empowerment part!!
The greatest of triumphs don’t come easy—that’s why you feel so so FANTASTIC when you do achieve them. Can I help you to make a difference in your life today?– well maybe not, but I am going to give it a damn good try.
Find a quiet space, one where you’ll not get any interruptions for the next 15 minutes or so.
Grab a pen and paper and just take a minute to silence your thoughts.
Now make a list, no matter how wacky it may seem and write down your dreams, goals and aspirations in life. Don’t know what you want? Then the following questions might help you:
What are you truly passionate about?
What life desires are you moved to meet?
What excites you?
What are you really great at?
When are you at your most happiest?
What is your dream career?
What is important to you?
What does a purposeful and meaningful life look like for you?
What places would you like to visit? What would you like to learn?
GREAT—you may not realise it but you have made the first important step and hopefully you feel inspired to take another step forward. I bet you’re feeling just a little bit excited—if not a lot!
When I was planning for my Coaching business—long before it actually started, I got so so excited about helping others to achieve their own dreams in life. My extreme passion released a tremendous amount of energy to motivate action. For me I felt an abundance of excitement that I had never really experienced before. I was 34 years young (always thinking positively) and I am now approaching 7 years of having my own business.
Now, I do want to keep it real here because life is not a bouquet of roses everyday (and I would be crazy to expect that) but I go to sleep feeling happy that I got one step closer to meeting my vision and I wake up EVERY morning delighted that yesterday I faced my fears, took a risk and just went for it.
Inspire Action in YOU
I feel it is such a loss for you not to experience this for yourself –I want this blog post to inspire action in YOU.
A few hundred words merely says it all but if I have inspired just one of you to discover your potential and go for your dreams—I will be absolutely delighted, so please let me know. Personally, I think hearing real stories are the best. I always love to hear readers’ inspiring stories —I invite you to share them with me here on the comments section of this blog.
Sometimes when I look into someone’s eyes, I just know if their soul is truly enlightened with love. I know they want to be really happy and maybe look happy on the outside but the window to their soul never lies, it’s all about the inside. I experienced that recently with someone and decided to write this poem for them and send it to them. I hope you like it. May your soul be filled with love and light today. Much love to you Clarabelle.
“Love is Free-Flowing”
I see in your eyes, no light or love;
Dead in the moment, but the rainbow is above.
You attract what you become, not just what you’ve got;
Love is free-flowing, and cannot be bought.
It’s nice to have freedom, choice and dreams;
But to enjoy it alone, bursts a heart at the seams.
Change your direction, take your soul along the path;
There you’ll meet true beauty, and with faith, your other half.
For sometimes we look so hard, and still cannot see;
Sometimes the ‘law of attraction’, works mysteriously.
It’s not in ‘the secret’, or a special treasure box;
It’s not hidden in a cave, or where the wishing well talks.
It’s found in your spirit, and blooms in the sunlight;
It brightens up your mood, full of happiness and delight.
Your paradise of love, will always find a way;
Seek truth in each moment, and loves light will shine on you today.