The Happier Side of Life

Life brings a roller coaster of changes that we are often not prepared for.

What do I know about what you’re going through right now? I have no idea if you’re feeling good or lying low but I do know that life brings a roller coaster of changes that we are often not prepared for.

We all have an emotional response to what’s going on around us and some of us are better at controlling that emotion or how we react to it.

There are so many different factors that determine how we respond to any given situation and I bet you, if you’re having a particularly bad day, you won’t respond the same way as you would, if you were having a good day.

Let’s keep it simple and say a bad day may equal a bad response and a good day may equal a good response. Therefore, if you want to respond better to challenging situations that come your way, it’s better to focus on the things that will help you have good day.

We can’t control other people and what they do but we can do as much as we can for ourselves to have a better kind of day.

Lately, I’ve been trying this out for myself and through my own daily efforts, I have managed to have more good days and good reponses than not so good ones. Below is a short list of some of the things I have been doing:

Reduced my intake of refined sugar. Although I really do love sweets, cakes, biscuits, chocolates and all that lovely stuff, I noticed it was having a detrimental effect on my mood. I certainly had more of a short fuse when sugared up to the max with these delicious fancies. By cutting these out of my diet for the last four months I have noticed a positive difference in my mindset and mood.

Cut out caffeine. Caffeine has always been a tricky one for me, I love to love it but hated the brain crash when the caffeine wore off. This, so called crash put me into a low and cranky mood and I didn’t like that one bit. So I decided, let’s cut this stuff out of my diet and see how it goes. I must say my mood has definitely uplifted and my energy levels are higher and more constant throughout the day.

Got myself back in the gym. I stopped the gym for about a year and I did notice the negative changes in my body because of it. So, I started going back to the gym 2-3 times per week and this also had a positive impact on my energy levels and mood.

Running. I love to run but again, like the gym, I stopped it for a while and I’ve got to say, I really missed my running. Running makes my whole body feel good and alive, so I make sure I run at least twice a week to get the full goodness from it.

Writing. I love writing on this blog and creating poems but I stopped for about four years and that wasn’t good for me – I was unhappy with not satisfying my creative side. So I started writing on this Clarabelle blog about five months ago and that makes me feel on top of the world.

Went on holiday. I hadn’t been on a proper holiday for a number of years and it was well overdue. This holiday really did refresh my body and mind and reminded me of how good it is to ‘getaway’ every now and again.

Positive Relationships. I started focussing on having more positive and meaningful relationships that fulfilled me and inspired me to be a better person and reach for my goals. The power of having these good relationships in your life are highly impactful and can be a real gamechanger in terms of your own love and happiness.

Sleep. One of the most important factors for me in having a better day is by getting a good night’s sleep for at least 8 hours every night. I love my sleep and never feel guilty about putting my head to rest and going for a well deserved nap. Give me a great night’s sleep and I’ll be on point the whole day through.

Water. Since I stopped the caffeine, I don’t drink fizzy soda drinks or anything like that anymore. I mainly stick to sparkling and still water and aim to drink about two litres of this beautiful stuff everyday.

Motivation. I love listening to a little bit of motivational talks everyday, it just keeps my head in the right space. Every morning I listen to “7 Good Minutes” on Spotify and it really does have a positive impact on my focus and mood throughout the day. I always say to myself, “if they can do it, I can do it” – it’s powerful stuff!

There are so many other factors that I could add to the above list, like being around family, going for walks in nature, being by the sea, watching a beautiful sunrise or sunset, doing more fun things and the list goes on.

It really all comes down to choosing to do those things everyday that will help you be a better you and ultimately have better days. I am sure most of us, if not all, would rather be around a positive, good energy person that handles most challenges well and chooses to live on the happier side of life.

By Clarabelle, 23 November 2022

Question of the Month

True Beauty

Answer this Question

A very warm and lovely welcome to this month’s question.  I hope you will get the chance to reflect and answer this question for yourself – my answer is also below.  I hope you’re having a fabulous start to February.  Lots of love Clarabelle.

Question:

What do you love doing, you know that one thing that really makes you smile, that really makes you happy…..who or what is it, I would love to know what lights you up inside?

My Answer:

Even this very question is making me smile inside because it is taking me to happy times. I am sure this will come as no surprise to you, but I really do love writing poetry from the heart and also writing songs.   What makes me even happier is knowing that these poems and songs are bringing joy to other people, that truly is the icing on the cake for me.  I have a vision that one day I will be standing on stage in front of a huge audience and they are singing along to my own songs.  I also have a beautiful vision of driving my car and one of my original songs are playing on the radio.  This my friends, I truly believe will happen…..I just believe that in my heart of hearts.

So I hope you really think about this question today and if you’re not doing what you love, make sure you give it your priority this month, because you truly deserve to be happy doing what you LOVE doing.

Thank you for being here.

Love Clarabelle

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Positive Energy Bubble

On my bus journey back from my weekend in Manchester I decided to write some poems for you.  Below is the first one I wrote, I think because I definitely feel like a positive energy bubble at the moment and I hope you do too.  Much love to you today, Clarabelle.

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Positive Energy Bubble

Positive energy bubble
Is where I like to live
Brighter than a star
Happiness I give
Attracting always good
Living life to the full
Be a positive energy bubble
It’s funky, hip and cool

poemsbyclarabelle, 11 August 2013

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How Do You Know?

How do you know when you are happy, I mean really really happy?  This next poem is inspired by some thoughts around that question.  I do hope you are feeling happy today, even if you just get in touch with your own inner happiness for a moment, right now, it will give you an instant boost.  Much love and smiles to you today.  Clarabelle

How do you know?
How do you know?

How Do You Know?

How do you know, when a heart speaks with truth?

What does it tell you, in the telephone booth?

Open the secret, share it with your soul,

It’s the ultimate path, to make you feel whole.

Happiness is here, happiness is now,

Applaud each moment, take a bow.

No matter if sunshine, no matter if rain,

Break down the barriers, to feel at one again.

poemsbyclarabelle, 21 March 2013

Positive Mindset

Below is a post taken from one of my other blogs, I posted this one on 1 March 2010 and I thought I would share it with you on here.  Wishing you a day filled with an abundance of positive thoughts.  Love Clarabelle

My Niece Megan
My Niece Megan

Full of Character and Excitement

I was looking after my 3 year old niece the other week whilst her parents went off to pick up their new puppy dog.

I love watching my little niece she is such a funny, cheery little girl full of character and excitement. She was happily looking out of the window into my back garden when she shouted “look Auntie Claire, they’re dancing”, I asked her what was dancing and she said “the trees are dancing” and she began to copy the swaying movements of the trees blowing in the wind outside. It was so cute to watch, I smiled and I thought to myself what a truly wonderful positive perception she has on Mother Nature.

Such an Amazing “Mummy”

Later on that day I kept thinking about my niece’s words and how she could have said something completely different using a more negative connotation, but she didn’t. I then thought about my younger sister, who is such an amazing “Mummy” and how positive and happy she is. I just know that my sister’s love for nature and optimistic outlook on life has made such a positive influence on my little niece’s young life.

It made me think about how important it is for us all to choose to have a positive mindset and positive take on the world. Like in those famous lyrics sung by Whitney Houston “I believe the children are our future” – I do hope the trees stay dancing!!