Don’t get stuck in your head with negative thinking and over analysing. If you really really want to do something, I know you WILL make it happen. On the other hand, if you say you really want to do something but nothing is getting done about it, you’ve really got to look at that.
There are many reasons why you would want to do something but just don’t and this inaction may be related to some sort of inner FEAR.
You see, I’m there right now. I really really want to do something but I have a HUGE fear of it not working out and this fear comes from experiencing this pain a number of times in the past. So what am I doing about this? Well, I am taking every lesson from the past failures and making changes ever so slowly, rather than just jumping in, which I have done every time before.
I’m not frightened of change, actually I embrace the right kind of change but taking baby steps towards the progression of this change is a better option for me.
I’m learning to move forward but in a different way. This type of movement helps me become more patient, disciplined and consistent with my daily action.
Please don’t stay stuck, it’s a miserable place to be in. Take a look at what tiny changes you can make everyday to help you on your new path.
We’re all in this together and that’s why I do what I do. I just love sharing words of encouragement with you – we all need a little bit of that.
I know you really really want to – so start doing something about it today.
Brave steps of change can be a little daunting at times, however, you must think of the positives; you must stay focussed on all the great things that change can bring.
Yes, change can be a little scary but sometimes the more you over analyse, the more you want to stay in your comfort zone. Surely a great life can only be achieved with brave change, ambitious desire and deep faith in your heart that you are most definitely doing the right thing?
When you feel driven, when you feel responsible for making your life a great life……then you will take the plunge and what if everything does go your way….what if?
If things are not going your way, think about this…
What are the little things that you’re not on top of?
You know those things that don’t seem to be such a problem until they are ignored way to often and all of a sudden you’re thinking, “Yikes, what’s happening here?”
I’ll tell you what’s happening. You see all those little things that you forgot to do, that you didn’t make a priority for in your life at the time, they can all build up to a BIG problem, if just ignored. No matter what size your problem or challenge is, it just simply ain’t going to go away until you deal with it. You have to take RESPONSIBILITY. You have to stay DISCIPLINED, be FOCUSSED and take a little or a lot of ACTION every day and be CONSISTENT with it. Then my friend you’ll see some worthwhile change happening for you.
You know exactly what I’m saying don’t you? I know you’re thinking of at least one problem right now that if you dealt with it properly, day by day, you’d be telling yourself a different story, a more positive story.
So how can YOU solve this for YOU? Well, GET ON THE BALL, that’s it, say to yourself, ENOUGH IS ENOUGH, take CONTROL of your life and just you GET A MOVE ON.
Be direct, open and honest with yourself on this one – YOU KNOW what you have to do.
So Just You Do It and GET BACK ON THE BALL!!
You know you want to.
This is your chance. This is your opportunity. Enjoy getting stuck in to it and sort that problem out…….NOW!!
Is there actually one word that would encapsulate everything that you’re all about?
Look for your ‘one’ word – can you think of it?
Even under copious amounts of caffiene, I could not think of that ‘one’ word for myself. I don’t actually think that word exists – so maybe I have to create it!
You see, when I challenged you to think of that ‘one’ word, it immediately put limits on your thinking but our thinking needs to be limitless in order to engage and change worlds.
So let’s get a little creative here. I think my newly created ‘one’ word needs to be blended into something so magnificent, you’re never going to forget it.
A bit like the stupendous word “supercalifragilisticexpialidocious” from the famous Disney Movie, Mary Poppins.
There is so much POWER in our words and they can be used for the greatest good or to disempower, so please be very mindful of the words you say to yourself and to others.
I’ve got to say, one of my favourite words is “aspirational” – for some reason, that word seems to “breathe life into me”.
Another word I seem to love is “exponential”. I was first introduced to this word by Broadcaster & Global Keynote Speaker, Rene Carayol at the “The Time is Now” Leadership Conference, held in Glasgow City Centre in 2009.
“Imaginative” another wonderful word that seems to ignite my spirit.
Okay, I need more time to create ‘THEE’ one word but I think you get the moral of the story:
When you add rules, limits and boundaries to your creative thinking, you are boxing up the best of you.
Remember you are a GIFT, so special, that doesn’t need to be boxed up.
Next time you’re in a team meeting trying to come up with an innovative solution or new concept, allow your thinking to flow freely with no barriers in the way.
By Clarabelle, London, UK Created on 16 August 2022 Posted to Blog on 10 September 2022
A friend once said to me, “I don’t do fear”. I was like, “WOW”, what a way to think! She would share stories with me of times in her life when she faced so much adversity that fear was never an option for her – she had to survive! This woman is one super BRAVE lady!
Today though, as I reflect back on that enlightening conversation, I think of all the times in my younger life when being “fearful” was actually a positive for me.
I was sometimes fearful of my teachers at school, so much so, I would do extra studying after school, just so I could get the teacher’s question right in class. Overall, I think that did me a litte bit of good – especially in Accounts, which I hated but passed with flying colours!
I was lots of times fearful of doing talks and presentations in front of a little or a lot of people. This fear was also good, because it made me practice and practice and PRACTICE in order to improve and become better at it. In a weird sort of way, I still find it easier to talk to a live audience of thousands of people, rather than an intimate bunch of 20. Give me a huge big stage and I’m comfortably on it! I also have a very loud voice and super high energy – so I guess it all fits!
I’m certainly not advocating all fear, I just think, sometimes it can work to your advantage in certain ‘self-development’ circumstances.
Where, I think fear did not work for me, was when I pulled myself out of the running races at School because I knew I wasn’t fast enough to beat some other runners. In my head at the time, I thought, I’m not entering this competition because I won’t win the gold medal and I don’t want silver or bronze – how super childish is that thinking!
That type of silly thinking also straddled into my young work life when I didn’t go for early promotions because I thought other colleagues would get the job over me and I didn’t want to deal with the hurt, embarrassment and rejection. So this type of fear that I am describing, is really NOT good. Thankfully, those types of fear I just don’t have anymore and nothing like that ever holds me back from “giving it a go”.
Today, I am a “face fear head on” type of person – if I’m fearful – then I must do it – that’s it!
Imagine yourself today, STRONG, FEARLESS and POWERFUL – now what you going to do about it?
By Clarabelle, London, UK Created on 9 August 2022 Posted to Blog on 29 August 2022
Are you feeling a little unfulfilled in your work life? That can be very normal and can also be changed, albeit, where applicable.
Focus on what you can control in your workplace and also on what you can control, outside of work. This is one great way of accepting responsibility for taking positive action and not wasting your time and energy on things you just cannot control.
Think about purposeful and meaningful ways you can contribute to your work environment and/or job tasks. This will definitely make you feel a lot better and your work will most definitely benefit too.
In situations, where your work has closed the door on being a more fulfilling workplace for you – then think about what you can contribute to outside of work that offers you a more enriching life experience.
Please don’t go blaming your boss for work tasks that you initially signed up for and that now don’t ‘rock your boat’. Take responsibility for your own choices and decisions in life – this is a must!
Work your best with what you’ve got and gradually make small but impactful changes to enhance your life.
There are many options for you to explore here and it’s important you take the time to think about all the pros and cons of going one way or the other.
Bit by bit, if you really put the effort in, you will change things for the better. Dedicate time today to plan your future needs and wants – then jump to it!
It’s Your Life – GO GET IT!
By Clarabelle, London, UK Created on 5 August 2022 Posted to blog on 24 August 2022
I know you need help – we all do at certain times in our lives. Below are five simple steps to help you move forward in life:-
What you firstly want to do, is specifically work out, what kind of help you need. You might ask the question – “What end result do I want”?
Next, we have to get real here – you need to be brutally honest about what’s happening for you now. A good question would be, “What’s my current reality?”
We now need to move your thinking from the current challenge to thinking about, what it will feel like to you, once you have achieved your goal or overcome your current challenge – really get yourself excited about this! To raise your thinking, ask yourself, “What will it feel like, look like or be like for me, once I have achieved this goal?”
Then you need to think about, what resources are out there, in order for you to tap into, to get the right help. Ask yourself, “What options are available to me?”
Next, you need to take some self-action. A good question here, might be – “Given all the options available to me, what’s the best way forward?” and “What plan will I put in place in order to make this happen? or better still “What’s my first step?”
Now, it really is, over to you, to get to work and progress on. If you put in 100% effort and remain committed to the change – you’ll definitely get there.
Keep measuring, reviewing and fine-tuning along the way – it will definitely keep you on track.
It’s Your Life – GO GET IT!
By Clarabelle, London, UK Created on 5 August 2022 Posted to blog on 23 August 2022
I wrote this motivational and inspirational speech from deep within my heart and soul for YOU yesterday and I recorded it on Youtube this morning. I do hope this inspires you to be the BEST EVER YOU. Love Clarabelle
BEST EVER YOU
Who Am I? I am a woman, a person with a heart, a loving heart, a soul, a singing soul, a spirit, a happy spirit. I have dreams, great, great, dreams. I have plans, big, big, plans. I have faith, strong faith in the mystery of the unknown and I BELIEVE.
I believe with every part of my being that only magnificence lies before me. I have a unique power that goes beyond the impossible. I have an energy that attracts true abundance to me. I am alive and I am grateful for all that I am and for all that I am becoming.
I can create magic around me because I breathe and do with passion, every baby step that I take on this journey of life.
The miracle of all miracles is in me and in every path I come across. Every heart that I touch, every soul that I inspire, every star that I catch and every rainbow that protects me from the storms.
I am at one with me, in the silence of all silences my spirit shines and my light guides me out of the darkness.
I fly, I soar, I reach for the mountain top and when I get there, I see far in the distance another higher mountain to climb. But it is in the challenge of every challenge to only ever reach the top. The top is never ending, the beginning is never new, life is, what it is.
Life is how you see it.
Life is how you live it.
Life is how you love it.
There is freedom, there is abundance, there is everything you need and want before you. You can’t see it with your eyes, you can’t touch it with your hands but it is living, breathing and dancing around you. This invisible space is your space, your space to fill with smiles, laughter, love, joy and happiness. Nourish the space around you by nourishing peace from within, because even in stormy weathers you can find a calm place.
So go to the edge of the mountain top because it is waiting for you with open arms. Other travellers want to hear your story, want to learn from your experiences, good or bad. They want to know, what you know, to help them on their own journey of life.
Then you must find a quiet spot and listen to the sound of the wind, whispers of the greatest knowledge will come to you and you will use this wisdom to carry on.
Yes you may feel broken right now.
Yes you may have cried enough tears to fill a river.
Yes you may feel like a failure and all your self-worth and self-confidence has gone.
But I want to tell you something. It’s still there you know. The best part of you is still living in you. You still have that spark. You still shine. You are loved deeply and your heart knows this.
The mind can play games with our feelings, but the mind has no hold over the power of the heart. Close your eyes, feel your heart, feel its energy, feel its power, let it grow inside of you.
You are very special and you can and will do this. You will turn your life around for the better.
This is the moment that counts, this is when you decide enough is enough. This is when you say “I am strong, I am better than that and I believe in me and my potential. I am whatever I choose to be and I choose to be what I believe in my heart. I am my greatest dreams, I am.”
Never settle for too little because you have such a lot and to not unleash your true talents into this world would surely keep you from the wisdom that is truly yours.
Trust in you, trust in your abilities, trust that everyone is asking similar questions and this is your time to fight back. This is your time to answer with your heart. This is your life, to love, to live, to learn and to lead. Capture that feeling in your heart right now, let it flow through every vein in your body, let it illuminate you with drive, determination and self-discipline, now mix it with passion and purpose and you’re on your way.
You are free now, free to make the right choices and decisions in life that will make you the BEST EVER YOU. Your new life awaits – make every moment count and GO GET IT, because nobody deserves it more than you. You have all the qualities within you to make it. Thrive, grow and shine NOW and FOREVER.
Since January last year I have been making a lot of changes in my life, the inner changes came first and then the outer changes started to happen. I decided that before I made any outer changes I ensured I was happy on the inside first, so I did a lot of work on my “soul development” and I truly feel more like,well, “me”. 🙂
One of the changes that I wanted to make and was genuinely excited to make, was changing my hair colour from black to blonde and I want to share with you a photo of the transformation process (below). I love my new blonde look, it hasn’t made me any happier from within because I was already happy but it has given me a renewed and re-energised feeling – “out with the old and in with the new” and I feel really great.
Clarabelle’s New Blonde Look
I love my hairdresser, I think she did a really great job as it has been a long process to get there over a 6 week period, thank you Yvonne Lennon Holton and such a great friend too.
What do you think of my new blonde look?
Inside Changes
I want you to think about this, before you make any external changes in your life think about how happy you feel first on the inside. I urge you to make the inside changes first and then you know that any external changes you make after that, will be an added bonus to your already happy self.
Wishing you a day filled with inner happiness and contentment, lots of love to you today, Clarabelle.
You may not wish to answer straight away, you may wish to contemplate the question for a few minutes/hours/days or even a couple of weeks. You don’t even need to post the answer on here, but it would be nice if you would and share your answers with others. So here is your question:
What are you tolerating?
Here is my answer:
These days I don’t tolerate most things that don’t serve me well and I made that change for myself a while back after I came across this statement “You get what you tolerate”. Wow, that was a transformational statement to me because it really made me think of what I was tolerating at that time in my life and didn’t wish to continue to tolerate. This changed my thinking at that time and inspired positive change within me.
So these days, if I’m purely honest, I don’t put up with anything that I don’t want and that is because I have greater self-respect and self-love for myself, I have raised my personal standards and everyday I work towards living my life in alignment with my values. My focus is on what I want out of life not what I don’t want and then I do what I can to achieve what I desire. Sometimes this isn’t easy and I have to push past internal barriers but as long as I have moved one baby step closer to my goal, then I know I am progressing and I will definitely arrive.
You get what you tolerate and if you don’t like it, change it!!
Welcome to my monthly post, where I post a question for you to answer (I will share my answer with you too). You may not wish to answer straight away, you may wish to contemplate the question for a few minutes/hours/days or even a couple of weeks. You don’t even need to post the answer on here, but it would be nice if you would and share your answers with others. So here is your question for this month:
How do you know you are growing?
How do you know you are growing?
Here is my answer:
I have a greater sense of self-awareness and I practice mindfulness.
I am having different kinds of meaningful conversations with different people from around the world.
I am deliberately learning every day – educating myself on personal mastery, business, love and life fulfillment.
I welcome a broader range of learning and I am open to new ideas that inspire my imagination and creativity.
I am sharing my learning, every day.
I am progressing towards my goal achievement – I see and feel the results.
I am committed to making me a better me and I am enjoying the NOW.
I am always moving outside of my comfort zone into my learning/stretch zone.
I dare to dream and have big plans for the future.
I practice courage every day and see the value in being brave, facing my fears and getting on with life.
I am grateful, so very very grateful for everything I have in my life right now – my health, my home, my happiness.
I help people, more than I ever have, I make time to help people because this is what I love to do.
I sing, I dance, I run in the rain, I laugh, I cry and I don’t hold onto the sweet memories of the past, they are very special however there are many more special moments to be enjoyed now and in the future.
I love and I have an abundance of self-love.
I pray, for self and for others, this brings much peace to my heart and mind.
I am not frightened anymore to show my vulnerable side, I see this is a real strength.
I know I am stronger, I feel stronger, I look stronger from the outside and inside.
I am positive, optimistic, enthusiastic and full of energy….I know my heart and soul is alive.
I am excited about life now and all that could and will be.
I am making music, writing songs and the child in me is smiling.
I am becoming me, nothing more, nothing less and it feels so good.
I believe in me, I have faith, I am truly unique.
I believe in YOU, you are all of the above and more.
I believe YOU have a magnificent capacity to grow and fulfill your potential. Yes, sometimes there are barriers in the way but only YOU can break these barriers down. Ahh! But! I hear you say ‘it just ain’t that easy’ – you’re telling me!! Sometimes your greatest learning will come from your own failures or learning from other peoples’ failures. Moving towards the fear is one of those inner challenges which seems so much easier to avoid. But when you go against your core values it tears a part of you away and day by day your true identity slips into the hands of others.
Do you really want to reach the age of 90 and discover through your REGRET that it could all have been different if you only remained true to yourself and took action.
So here comes the empowerment part!!
The greatest of triumphs don’t come easy—that’s why you feel so so FANTASTIC when you do achieve them. Can I help you to make a difference in your life today?– well maybe not, but I am going to give it a damn good try.
Find a quiet space, one where you’ll not get any interruptions for the next 15 minutes or so.
Grab a pen and paper and just take a minute to silence your thoughts.
Now make a list, no matter how wacky it may seem and write down your dreams, goals and aspirations in life. Don’t know what you want? Then the following questions might help you:
What are you truly passionate about?
What life desires are you moved to meet?
What excites you?
What are you really great at?
When are you at your most happiest?
What is your dream career?
What is important to you?
What does a purposeful and meaningful life look like for you?
What places would you like to visit? What would you like to learn?
GREAT—you may not realise it but you have made the first important step and hopefully you feel inspired to take another step forward. I bet you’re feeling just a little bit excited—if not a lot!
Extreme Passion
When I was planning for my Coaching business—long before it actually started, I got so so excited about helping others to achieve their own dreams in life. My extreme passion released a tremendous amount of energy to motivate action. For me I felt an abundance of excitement that I had never really experienced before. I was 34 years young (always thinking positively) and I am now approaching 7 years of having my own business.
Now, I do want to keep it real here because life is not a bouquet of roses everyday (and I would be crazy to expect that) but I go to sleep feeling happy that I got one step closer to meeting my vision and I wake up EVERY morning delighted that yesterday I faced my fears, took a risk and just went for it.
Inspire Action in YOU
I feel it is such a loss for you not to experience this for yourself –I want this blog post to inspire action in YOU.
A few hundred words merely says it all but if I have inspired just one of you to discover your potential and go for your dreams—I will be absolutely delighted, so please let me know. Personally, I think hearing real stories are the best. I always love to hear readers’ inspiring stories —I invite you to share them with me here on the comments section of this blog.
I subscribe to Psychologies Magazine (UK)and I was pleasantly surprised and excited to read their 4 page article on “The Healing Power of Poetry” in their February 2013 edition.
psychologies magazine Feb 2013 Edition ‘Poetry the New Therapy’
You see, I have always felt that self-expression through my own poetry writing has been very meaningful and therapeutic for me and it was wonderful to read some real evidence of this happening in the real world, and yes people actually give poetry therapy sessions as part of their business.
I feel that my own blog here “Poems by Clarabelle” is somewhat along the same lines, I have received some wonderful messages from my blog followers who have made a real connection with my poetry in a positive way in their life. To hear this is so gratifying because I have always tried in some way through my own poetry writings to inspire, encourage, motivate, empower, mentor, coach and softly guide others through my own poetry reflections and life experiences.
The Psychologies article by Claire Longrigg states “Poetry can transform our lives, lift our mood, and be a powerful tool for self-development” and I really do truly believe this. The article shares some poems that can help an individual who is suffering from joylessness, fearfulness, feeling stuck and loneliness…..just have a quick look at the categories on the right side of this blog and I am sure there will be something there for you or for someone you know.
I know there are alot of talented bloggers, creative writers and poets out there and I thought it would be good to share this new found information with you.
Onwards and upwards dear fellow bloggers, I have always believed “imagination is the highest kite one can fly”….I hope you will fly yours today!! Lots of love Clarabelle
Related link: http://www.psychologies.co.uk/magazine
I searched and searched you know, looking for that one piece of inspiration, that one trigger, that sentiment of hope that would help me to turn my life around. I searched long and hard, night and day……..I struggled to find it. Where are you inspiration, when I need you the most, where are you to help me get back up again? And the search continued…… click here to read on https://poemsbyclarabelle.wordpress.com/reflections/
Throughout our journey of life, the book holds many lessons but sometimes we get stuck in a chapter and fear the creation of a brand new page. It is in this blank canvas that our dreams can be nurtured into reality. By embracing change and stretching ourselves outside our comfort zones, we hold the key to an exciting new world. This next poem is all about ‘letting go’ and feeling free enough to turn the page of life.
Goodbye to my past, I’m letting go of you
Now I focus on the present, this beauty is shining through
I’ve closed the door to your love and finally have moved on
Too many sleepless nights, and worry from dusk til dawn
I didn’t need another, to help me close the book
I know the early chapters, were always worth a look
But the best is yet to come, the rainbow is on its way
It paints a bright picture, of the excited thoughts I hold today
Each step forward, I dance between the puddles
Like an umbrella of magic, embraced with joyful cuddles
Some will join the journey, others will choose to stay
But I will not forget you, in my heart for you I pray
Life can turn around fast, but only if that’s your choice
I say yes to change, by listening to my inner voice
poemsbyclarabelle, 9 May 2012
If you really like what you read here on this blog, you may be interested in purchasing one of Clarabelle’s self-published inspirational ebooks available to download now on Amazon Kindle, please refer to the Author page on this blog or clickHERE
Throughout our journey of life, the book holds many lessons but sometimes we get stuck in a chapter and fear the creation of a brand new page. It is in this blank canvas that our dreams can be nurtured into reality. By embracing change and stretching ourselves outside our comfort zones, we hold the key to an exciting new world. This next poem is all about ‘letting go’ and feeling free enough to turn the page of life.
Goodbye to my past, I’m letting go of you
Now I focus on the present, this beauty is shining through
I’ve closed the door to your love and finally have moved on
Too many sleepless nights, and worry from dusk til dawn
I didn’t need another, to help me close the book
I know the early chapters, were always worth a look
But the best is yet to come, the rainbow is on its way
It paints a bright picture, of the excited thoughts I hold today
Each step forward, I dance between the puddles
Like an umbrella of magic, embraced with joyful cuddles
Some will join the journey, others will choose to stay
But I will not forget you, in my heart for you I pray
Life can turn around fast, but only if that’s your choice
I say yes to change, by listening to my inner voice
poemsbyclarabelle, 9 May 2012
If you really like what you read here on this blog, you may be interested in purchasing one of Clarabelle’s self-published inspirational ebooks available to download now on Amazon Kindle, please refer to the Author page on this blog or clickHERE
Thank you for visiting this page. I love to use my imagination and create poems and other lyrical art such as songwriting, from the heart, therefore, this blog is dedicated to you, as I share with you my experiences and heartfelt meaning of life in poetry and inspirational messages. I want these creative posts to connect with you and your own life experiences, maybe you are going through a period of difficult change in your life right now, or you are just needing a little bit of inspiration to create a positive transformation in you.
Created in “Flow”
These are all my own poems and songs created in ‘flow’ and often during my life’s highest of highs or lowest of lows, however I hope you interpret the power of my mind and the inner strength from within myself coming through in the poetry verses.
The aim of this poetry blog is to ultimately help you turn your life around and catapult you into achieving your greatest potential.
It’s your life, GO GET IT!!
If you really like what you read here on this blog, you may be interested in purchasing one of Clarabelle’s self-published inspirational ebooks available to download now on Amazon Kindle, please refer to the Author page on this blog or click HERE
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