clarabelle lifestyle blog

I was out walking yesterday, and I was thinking about how we all deal differently with loss and grief.

My first real experience of the deepest grief, was when I was in my early twenties.

I lost my Dad to cancer after a horrific 5 year battle – it was extremely painful to watch – I felt so helpless.

As a proud, ‘Daddy’s Girl’, I dealt with my grief differently from my other siblings. I cried everyday for 4 years, and then, one day, I just stopped crying.

I had never felt such deep sadness and raw emotion. I really had no idea, that depth of hurt existed.

Fast forward to today, and I can talk about my Dad without any sadness overwhelming me. I think of his happy times, not the sad.

In 2013, I wrote a song about missing my Dad, but in an endearing hopeful way. I called the song, I AM HERE.

I professionally recorded me singing the song and have the original on Spotify, Apple Music etc…

I plan to re-record the song and release it again, down the line – I know it will relate to a lot of people.

If you are grieving right now, you must allow that sadness to run its course. It may take, 3 months, 3 years or 13 years, but allow those tears to fall my beautiful friend.

Don’t be afraid to seek out professional grief support. Doing this, is a strength, not a weakness.

Life is such a beautiful gift and you must appreciate it everyday.

You must look after your health and wellbeing, and help others along the way.

I guess, we’re all just ‘passing through’, so please do what you can to make the most of your life.

Our loved ones, who are not here anymore, would want that for us too.

You are very special, with a heart of gold.

Thank you for being here.

Clarabelle