You have to believe in something that’s going to give you that extra edge.
Not everyone has strong self-belief, so therefore, in those cases, you have to look into taking smaller steps that will help you get there.
What does this mean?
If I use myself as an example, I have built strong self-belief in myself over the years, but I wasn’t always like that.
In the past, what held me back, was ultimately ME, because, at the time, I cared too much about what other people thought of me…..
My peers: I would do what I had to do to “fit it” – going against the real me – it was horrible, but I just didn’t have the fight in me to “go against the grain”.
My environment: I would let my surroundings dictate my decisions – a bit like “dumbing myself down” and “following the crowd”.
My confidence: I would avoid arguments, debates, negativity and speaking up for myself, because I just didn’t want the hassle – this in turn, led to my confidence being lowered and I didn’t even realise it.
My critics: I had this thing about “being judged” and it made me feel uncomfortable inside. I took criticism from others quite hard and would do everything I could to avoid it.
My choices: I never felt I had a strong hold on my choices, usually, I just “went with the flow” and did “whatever”.
My mindset: I worried about the most silliest of things, not wanting to upset others and my self-talk wasn’t good at all.
My family: I was strongly influenced by what they wanted for me and I just followed suit, without much thinking of what I wanted from my end.
Today, I am very proud to say that I am NOT that person at all. I am the complete opposite. I guess this comes from living life, trying out new things, never giving up, eventually not caring too much about what others think and standing up for myself if needed.
I think at age 21, I started to make stronger choices for me. I began going against what others would tell me to do – mainly my parents. I remember saying to them, it’s my life – I’ll do what I want to do. So I did, and I was happier. One strong choice, then led to another and another – do you see where this is going?
I also progressed in jobs quite quickly, because my bosses believed in me. They saw fire, drive and ambition in me, that I didn’t even know was there – until they pointed it out. Their support helped me to grow mentally and physically. They had my back and I felt it. Take note, when others believe in you, it totally helps you to believe more in yourself.
There was no stopping me really from the age of 26 – every brave move I made, the more I felt ALIVE – the more I lived ME. The more I let go of what others thought of me.
I stand here today, age 51 years, strong, self-confident, brave, courageous, determined, high-spirited, a positive mindset and with a crazy amount of self-belief – I always do me.
To the point now, it might come across as selfish to others, but that’s definitely not my intention. My heart is always in the right place.
If I do me, I can help others more in the right way – the aligned path.
This is why you must follow your own dreams and goals – it gives you access to help others you were meant to help.
My internal set point is encouraging, happy, positive, dreamer, doer, believer, courageous, kind, full of love, harmonious, fun, adventurous and ambitious, with a strong helping hand.
To help others is a gift.
To help others on your aligned path is a true miracle.
Therefore, I urge you to…
Be the miracle.
Be YOU.
Clarabelle
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