“There must be more to life than this”, I said to myself, as my mind filled up with deep monotony and extreme dullness. I was 23 years young, had just lost my father to cancer after a 5 year struggle, was about 3 stone overweight and completely and utterley unfulfilled at work and life in general! I didn’t just have the “Monday Morning Blues”, I had the “Everyday Blues” at that time in my life. It got so bad, I didn’t even want to look at my reflection in the mirror because I was so afar from the person I wanted to become. Absolute true story. . . .phew!
Thank goodness, I took charge of my life and decided to change it for the better. The good thing is, I recognised at that time, nothing was going to change, unless I changed – so that’s what I did.
I joined the gym; started applying for new jobs, got a better job and a new boyfriend, all at the same time. I turned my boring, stagnant life into a much more happier one, in under 12 months.
You see, I’m really not the “settle for less” type of person – I can only do that for so long and then I begin to explode with passionate energy for something much more fulfilling.
I guess that’s just a natural part of me, who I am and what I really do love about myself. I am like the underdog who keeps coming back for more, getting stronger and more resilient everytime.
Oh how I wish I had joined the army when I was 18, which I really wanted to do, but I allowed the voices of others to decide that wasn’t a good option for me. No regrets and no blame – life is what it is and you can always make it better if you want to.
I encourage you to focus on the things in life that give you real energy and enthusiasm for each brand new day – this is why I write.
Bring more meaning, purpose and fulfillment into your life, in anyway you can and bit by bit move closer to the best version of you.
Most importantly, where you can, please help others along the way – your wisdom and experience can make a real difference in their life.
Take command of your heart, mind and soul and make a self-commitment to worry less and live more.
Thank you for being here.
Clarabelle, London, UK Created on 23 August 2022 Posted to Blog on 21 September 2022
Don’t let your environment dictate your bad habits – you need to think and do GREAT things for yourself.
The environment that you spend most of your time in can be a huge influence in your life and it might not be positive.
Think about daily habits that don’t serve you well and you can probably link them to being in a certain environment or around certain people. You may think you have control over your “doing” but I bet you, when you really think about it, you are most definitely picking up bad habits from others.
I am not saying here to put the “blame” on others – that’s one thing I am very opposed to but I am saying, you WILL be infuenced everyday – positively or negatively, whether you realise it or not.
I can totally vouch for myself here, especially during my Secondary School days when I went against the true essence of me and picked up some terrible bad habits from the age of 14. Thankfully, as I became more confident, especially from the age of 26, I started to change my bad habits into better ones that had a real positive influence on my life.
Below are some real examples of bad habits that I had which I then changed to positive ones:
I watched far too much junk TV, so I got rid of my TV, which in turn, gave me so much extra time, that I started this Clarabelle blog. Taking up writing, gives me so much fulfillment and the articles hopefully help others too. I have been doing this for over 10 years.
I also got “off the couch” every evening after work and took up running outdoors and going to the gym – this led me onto running four marathons and raising lots of money for charity along the way. I still run outdoors twice week and I love it! I have been running outdoors since 2007.
I moved to a different country – a few times – and this got me “out of a rut” and gave me so much self-belief and confidence. The moving to a different location, led me to start my Greeting Card Business, which is now progressing very well on Amazon & Etsy. I now live in London after living in Bonny Scotland for 40 years of my life. I am not frightened to move again – I actually enjoy the new challenge and adventure of being in a different place and starting from scratch.
I never want to settle with bad habits – I just don’t like it! I always want to strive for better and get the best out of life.
Think about your habits today – are they serving you well and getting you to where you want to go in life?
The habit of a habit, can move you up or pull you backwards – it’s for you to decide, which way you want to go.
Remember . . . . It’s Your Life – GO GET IT!
By Clarabelle, London, UK Created on 22 August 2022 Posted to Blog on 17 September 2022
Turbulent times in life can eat away at your self-esteem but they can also make you super resilient and unbelieveably strong.
I choose tough times to ‘MAKE ME’ rather than, ‘break me’ and I guess, that’s just how I internally respond.
I think it’s the challenge seeker in me and possibly watching too many Rocky films when I was a child! Regardless of any punches that keep coming, I know I will always bounce back – every single time.
So what is it within me that gives me this fighting back spirit? I don’t really know but I do have this absolute determination and robust self-belief that if someone else can succeed at something, then I can too. I never ever look at anyone in ‘awe’ or wish I was them – I have always loved being me. I was never a fan of anyone or anything – I was happiest just being me.
Don’t get me wrong, there were lots of times growing up when I would hold back, be overly self-conscious and under confident BUT I promise you, I never wanted to be anyone else. I have felt fear, rejection, unloved and lost – especially as a young adult but as I put myself out into the world I started to become more ambitious and be magnetically attracted to self-success.
Instead of happily being led, I found myself naturally becoming the LEADER and feeling very comfortable in this role. As I found my own inner greatness, I would encourage and support others to fulfill their own potential too. Even to this day, I constantly see and seek out the BEST in everyone and that thinking gives me the most beautiful joy.
Many people have called me naive, too much of a ‘yes’ person, a people pleaser and a wearer of ‘rose tinted’ glasses. Personally, that doesn’t bother me too much and I don’t think that of me at all. I know my BEST growth has come from being true to me.
Have I gone off track? Yes, lots of times, and the only way I have managed to pull things back on track, is by realigning to my core values – it works every time!
I encourage you to STAND BY YOU and hold your position as strongly as you can, in the field that you want to grow in. Nurture your mind and body with good habits that will serve you well in the now and in the future.
Focus on developing your SELF-LEADERSHIP and CHAMPION every effort you make in order to change your life for the better.
After all. . . . .
It’s Your Life – GO GET IT!
By Clarabelle, London, UK Created on 18 August 2022 Posted to Blog on 14 September 2022
Stagnation can be so very painful. Lack of growth and stimulation can make a person feel ‘dead’. Focus on staying alive and true to yourself. Be the person today, you want to become in the future. Grow into tomorrow by developing as much as you can today.
As soon as you stop learning and making a meaningful contribution in life, you don’t just STOP, you actually go backwards, because everyone else is moving forward.
Are you happy being at the back of the line?
What will entice you to move on up the line?
What greatness awaits you at the front?
What will you do TODAY in order to make that positive change in your life?
The world waits for no one and no one waits for you. You’ve got to get UP yourself and GET GOING.
This one is for YOU – the back of the line doesn’t suit you.
It’s Your Life – GO GET IT!
By Clarabelle, London, UK Created on 17 August 2022 Posted to Blog on 13 September 2022
I just love writing in this blog and I will never tire of it.
When I write, I write for you and for me. Often, I am talking to myself when I write a post. It usually starts off with something that’s going on in my life – good or bad and then this conjures up some words of wisdom and/or a real effort to turn around negative thinking, in order to brighten up my spirits or to cheer up someone else who needs to read these words.
You see, timing can be EVERYTHING – empowering, positive words and strategies might just pop into someone’s life, just when they need it. They might be pondering over a difficult decision or life changing matter and the blog post helps in some sort of way.
The forever aim of what I write IS to help, motivate, encourage, inspire, empower, teach, develop and share as much positive influence, inner wisdom and useful knowledge as possible.
I write about these things because that is who I am as a person and that comes most natural to me. I have so much energy and passion for this stuff – it takes my breath away!
So, no matter the barriers, difficulties and challenges that we all face in life – you can always ‘camp out’ in this Clarabelle Blog and hopefully find something that will help you move forward in life.
It’s Your Life – GO GET IT!
By Clarabelle, London, UK Created on 16 August 2022 Posted to Blog on 12 September 2022
Yes, you did read that right….. and what a really stupid thing for me to do!
The year was 2008 and I was training for my first marathon. I was about 8 months into my training (out of 11 months in total) and was on a significant 16 mile run. Up until then, everything was going perfectly in my training and this particular Sunday morning run, started off really well.
I got to about 12 miles in, and soon, a little knee niggle became a huge big, pain in the butt – so much so, that I had to stop running at the 13 mile mark.
To say I was furious, was an understatement – I was so ANGRY and FRUSTRATED, that I started to agressively kick the brick wall next to me. I kicked that wall so hard that I nearly did myself some serious damage, but thankfully, I realised how stupid I was being and eventually stopped.
This ‘kicking the brick wall’ incident was very ‘out of character’ for me, and as I reflect on it today, I feel very bewildered by that ‘manic behaviour’ – it really made no sense at all!
The ups and downs of Life WILL put our true emotions to the test and it’s our job to have internal control over how we respond to these emotions. Anger, frustration, aggression and crazy behaviour, NEVER EVER works…. period!
I recently watched a video interview of a former Royal Marine, who shared one piece of learning that was so POWERFUL. In this interview, he said, “if you’re angry, you’re wrong” – WOW . . . . . just think about that for a minute.
So let’s take the aforementioned running incident and deal with it all over again, today, as it was back then. What would I do? Well, as soon as I felt the little niggle at the 12th mile – I’d stop, flag a taxi, rest the overworked knee and celebrate my progress to date, with my favourite bar of chocolate!
*IMPORTANT NOTE – no bricks walls were harmed in this 2008 incident, only a bruised EGO that needed to learn a hard lesson!
By Clarabelle, London,UK Created on 9 August 2022 Posted to Blog on 31 August 2022
Are you feeling a little unfulfilled in your work life? That can be very normal and can also be changed, albeit, where applicable.
Focus on what you can control in your workplace and also on what you can control, outside of work. This is one great way of accepting responsibility for taking positive action and not wasting your time and energy on things you just cannot control.
Think about purposeful and meaningful ways you can contribute to your work environment and/or job tasks. This will definitely make you feel a lot better and your work will most definitely benefit too.
In situations, where your work has closed the door on being a more fulfilling workplace for you – then think about what you can contribute to outside of work that offers you a more enriching life experience.
Please don’t go blaming your boss for work tasks that you initially signed up for and that now don’t ‘rock your boat’. Take responsibility for your own choices and decisions in life – this is a must!
Work your best with what you’ve got and gradually make small but impactful changes to enhance your life.
There are many options for you to explore here and it’s important you take the time to think about all the pros and cons of going one way or the other.
Bit by bit, if you really put the effort in, you will change things for the better. Dedicate time today to plan your future needs and wants – then jump to it!
It’s Your Life – GO GET IT!
By Clarabelle, London, UK Created on 5 August 2022 Posted to blog on 24 August 2022
I know you need help – we all do at certain times in our lives. Below are five simple steps to help you move forward in life:-
What you firstly want to do, is specifically work out, what kind of help you need. You might ask the question – “What end result do I want”?
Next, we have to get real here – you need to be brutally honest about what’s happening for you now. A good question would be, “What’s my current reality?”
We now need to move your thinking from the current challenge to thinking about, what it will feel like to you, once you have achieved your goal or overcome your current challenge – really get yourself excited about this! To raise your thinking, ask yourself, “What will it feel like, look like or be like for me, once I have achieved this goal?”
Then you need to think about, what resources are out there, in order for you to tap into, to get the right help. Ask yourself, “What options are available to me?”
Next, you need to take some self-action. A good question here, might be – “Given all the options available to me, what’s the best way forward?” and “What plan will I put in place in order to make this happen? or better still “What’s my first step?”
Now, it really is, over to you, to get to work and progress on. If you put in 100% effort and remain committed to the change – you’ll definitely get there.
Keep measuring, reviewing and fine-tuning along the way – it will definitely keep you on track.
It’s Your Life – GO GET IT!
By Clarabelle, London, UK Created on 5 August 2022 Posted to blog on 23 August 2022
I was a Professional Executive Coach for many years and really did do very well in it. I met the most AMAZING leaders, whom I learned so much from. I found similar qualities in the leaders who made the BEST progress and I share below some of these:-
An incredibly ambitious growth mindset;
Deep listeners with a real eagerness to become more self-aware;
A true drive and enthusiasm for positive self-change;
Powerful and fast acting on the implementation of new ideas and learning;
A desire to become a better leader and to empower others to see their own leadership capabilities;
An unbelieveable ability to turn things around where needed;
Internally honest and seekers of truth to help them get out of their own way;
An energetic passion for meaningful results within themselves and others;
A first class ability to know what needs done and the onboard accountability for doing it;
Aspirational in their thinking and inspirational in their doing;
BIG THINKERS with a purposeful VISION;
And, let me tell you, this impressive list of leadership qualities goes on and on!
I am proud to say, I worked with the GREATEST in their field and I will never forget how ELATED and ENERGISED we both would feel after a truly progressive coaching session.
If you are in a leadership position and are currently struggling with your current set up or difficult strategic decisions – seek out a recommended professional executive coach or business mentor, who will ignite your inner drive, deeply question your current position and open up your own strategic thinking to achieve the necessary results.
There are an abundance of leadership coaching tools out there, that a highly skilled coach or mentor can share with you, in order to help you progress FAST!
Leaders have a lot of heavy plates spinning, whilst under a tremendous amount of work and personal stress – maybe it’s time to seek out the expertise you need.
Don’t stay stuck and never stay stagnant!
Be THEE Leader!
By Clarabelle, London, UK Created on 5 August 2022 Posted to blog on 22 August 2022
When I lived and worked in Dubai a few years ago, I used to go for 5am runs towards the stunning Dubai sunrise.
The morning sunrise in Dubai was as picture perfect as you could get it and it really did make a positive difference to the rest of my day.
A Good Solution
The lovely air conditioned gym in my apartment block, didn’t open until 6.30am and that was too late for me – so an early morning run, before the heat became unbearable, was a good solution for me.
I also had the wonderful opportunity, whilst staying in Palm Jumeirah, to go for morning swims before work. I remember during those blissful swims, feeling so wholeheartedly grateful for manifesting those dreamlike moments into my life.
Lots of things didn’t work out for me in Dubai or I would have stayed there for so much longer but I NEVER EVER think of that. I put my focus on what did work out and the truly wonderful people I crossed paths with and learned so much from.
Embrace Every Opportunity
Don’t expect things to be perfect in life, when you try something new or go to a new environment to live or work in but DO EXPECT to embrace every opportunity that comes your way, for that indeed makes up the true essence of you.
Never think, “What if it doesn’t work out?” ALWAYS think, “WHAT IF IT DOES WORK OUT?”
A doubtful mind is a horrible burden to carry. An empowering mind, on the other hand, will carry you there. NOTE THE DIFFERENCE!
Your dreams are for the taking and now is your time!
By Clarabelle, London, UK Created on 5 August 2022 Posted to blog on 21 August 2022
Even if you never ever become the BEST in your field, the fact that you actually strive to be the greatest, is what will make the difference between being ordinary or being AWESOME.
I always aim to be better today than yesterday – it might not always work out, but at least I go for it!
If I believe I AM THE GREATEST in my field, I won’t let limited thinking stand in my way of progression.
Even if, in the eyes of many, I am not the greatest, I don’t allow their thinking to have a negative affect on mine. Well, wouldn’t that be a bit BIG HEADED then? Absolutely NOT, if it is for a meaningful purpose and aligns with your core values.
Never apologise for aiming to be the BEST in your field. Never ‘dumb down’ your talents and abilities to fit into a smaller box. In my opinion, battle your way out of any boxed thinking and set yourself FREE to achieve greatness.
If you’re not aligned with the above – that’s okay – you just need to kick your way out of that box!
I see you doing AMAZING things, when you let your greatness shine through.
By Clarabelle, London, UK Article written on 3 August 2022 Posted on blog 19 August 2022
I have realised that when I know about an amazing event, activity or gift coming my way, the level of excited anticipation can reach a good 8 out of 10. However, when I am unexpectedly surprised by the kindness of others – even something like someone giving me a surprise cup of coffee – that excitment is, quite simply, off the scale! The elation that I feel when this happens it truly unbelieveable!
I promise you, it’s not really about the actual material thing that has amazingly come into my existence. It’s actually about the kind heart and thoughtfulness of the other person that puts me in this state of elation. The fact that that person took the time out of their day to think about me and show their beautiful heart through kindness.
I believe, the greatest surprise we can all offer someone, is the gift of the human spirit.
Which means, YOU, my dearest YOU, are the most precious gift of them all.
By Clarabelle, London, UK Article written on 3 August 2022 Posted to blog on 17 August 2022
You make a difference by firstly focussing on changing yourself for the better and then that has a real positive effect on others around you.
I never read a personal development book until I was in my 30s and then I was super hooked on how the teachings in those books had a positive influence on my thinking and then ultimately my doing.
You’ve probably heard the term “Leaders are Readers” and I think, there is a lot of truth in that popular saying.
Do you see yourself as a Leader or someone who likes to sit back and be led?
Personally, I think there is a leader in each and everyone of us and if you feel you’re not leading right now, it’s up to you to make the self-adjustment.
A leader doesn’t benefit from being loud, over confident or bullish in their ways and if you are currently experiencing that – then you’re definitely being wrongly led!
Sometimes, and more often than not, the BEST leaders are calm, focussed, quitely confident, deep listeners, super observant and highly self-aware. Great leaders are fully engaged in each and every person they influence. These type of leaders bring out positive energy in others, empowering untapped potential, leading to significant action. In my opinion, Leaders who truly shine, blend coaching and mentoring skills with experience and wisdom.
A true leader wants to bring out the best leadership qualities in others, then stands back, to see them soar.
Enhancing your attributes in self-leadership is one magnificent way to make a difference.
Please remember – Leadership isn’t only a ‘work’ thing – it’s a LIFE thing!
By Clarabelle, London, UK Article written on 3 August 2022 Posted to blog on 14 August 2022
It’s very easy to get lost in the hustle and bustle of life, doing the same thing day in and day out. The treadmill of life can be a bit like that, if you let it. What if you did something different today? What if you surprised yourself with trying something new, maybe something that you’ve always wanted to do but haven’t quite got there yet?
Let this be your day, your day to express yourself in a different way, your day to shine in a different way that adds sparkle to your own life and brightens up another’s life. What would that be for you? When you gain clarity of thought in this area, it will immediately perk you up, you will feel excited and joyous about this new activity in your life.
Follow Your Heart
“Follow your heart”, it really is one of those sayings that a lot of people love and a lot of people quite frankly dismiss. Personally, I have been on both sides of the camp, at different times in my life – sometimes following my heart and sometimes following my head! Lots of times, I didn’t follow through with the heart stuff because my head got in the way – is this good or bad? No regrets, thats what I say – I am here now, grateful in this moment and that is what matters most to me now.
What do you enjoy most about your life right now? Even if you are finding that question hard to answer, dig deep if you have to – you’ll most definitely find something and soon realise, you are a lot richer than originally thought.
Review the experiences you are currently having in your life right now – are these experiences of quality, of fulfilment, of purpose? Are you growing and contributing to life as much as you want to be? Questions, questions, so many questions but the right question will lead you to be present in the fullness of life.
I ask you today, to ponder the thoughts that this post raises for you. Reading between the lines, What speaks true for you? Here is one conclusion of many – heart with no effort, equals a head with more troubles – work that one out!!
Gain real clarity in why you do what you do – your head and your heart will thank you for it.
Thank you for being here.
It’s Your Life, Go Get It!!
Article originally posted 26 March 2016
Updated and reposted 10 August 2022
This is a question you maybe ask yourself every now and again. Your answer may vary depending on your mood, what’s going on around you and what you’re currently involved in. However, I want you to believe, really believe that YES, you are good enough. In this moment now, you are good enough to take the next step, good enough to challenge your thinking and good enough to get back in control of your life. As a matter of fact, good is not complimentary enough because you are amazing, wonderfuland can create positive impactwherever you go – it’s all a matter of choice.
Never let your own limiting beliefs starve you from an unlimited amount of possibilities that are open for you. Master the right thinking, thoughts that will serve you well and thoughts that will challenge the norm and catapult you into a new, invigorating and forever thriving life.
I encourage you to set your target, aim high and focus on building momentum – reviewing progress along the way. Don’t live a dull, boring and unfulfilled life because you are set in your ways or lack the energy to do anything about it. The less you do, the less motivated you will feel, so embrace the opportunity in the now and conquer the life that you want.
We all dream of better things, a better life, more happiness and more fulfilment but dreaming and doing are completely two different things. One without the other proves to be meaningless, but combine the two together and you get a winning formula for the life you deserve.
Break the Chains
The days, weeks, months and years can go past really quickly in an unchallenged lack lustre life. Raise your standards and don’t allow yourself to settle for what currently is. Break the chains from your robotic life and feel alive again and if you don’t remember how feeling alive really feels, then this is surely your cue to take over.
Over and out…….keep at it!!
It’s your life, go get it!!
Article originally posted 1 April 2016
Updated and reposted 8 August 2022
You’ve checked the pros and cons; you’ve overthought the decision; you’ve assessed the situation; and you’ve mapped out different outcomes…..but what it really all boils down to is – what is your gut really saying?
No matter how much you over analyse a situation and deliberate over an important decision, nothing will give you the absolute satisfaction of that “going with your gut” feeling.
Your intuition already knows what the answer is and you’re over analysing is creating an unnecessary battle. Surrender to your heart and go with your gut!!
This one’s for you, do it today.
It’s your life, go get it!!
Article originally posted 10 March 2017
Updated and reposted 7 August 2022, London, UK
Behind every strategy is another strategy – let me explain.
So let’s say you want to change something for the better in your life. Let’s say for example, you want to change your career and go in a completely different direction. Let’s say you want to move away from your Management Consultancy Business and progress with a new career in property development. So first of all, I would say, “Hey you, that’s truly amazing, I admire your spirit, drive and determination to change your future. Congratulations! You’ve taken your very first step. Well done!” Now the next part for you is likely to be exciting, crazy, liberating, fulfilling, challenging and possibly frightening – all at once!! You’ve gained the knowledge, you’ve got the outer strategy and you are damn well ready to execute – oh yes, you definitely know where you’re going with this one. However, I also want you to think about your inner strategy– what do I mean by that?
Your inner strategy is that vitally important checklist, the inner compass guiding and strengthening you on the unknown path ahead. This inner strategy is the imperative foundations that you will build your outer strategy upon – you’ve got to get the inner strategy right…...first and foremost. On your inner strategy checklist you will be clear on the following areas:
I clearly know my core values and what each value means to mean.
I specifically know what is personally important to me going forward in life – I know my non-negotiables.
I fully believe in my capabilities, unlimited potential and I have faith in myself, even when there seems to be no light at the end of the tunnel.
I am fully supportive of me, as much as I want solid support from the people closest to me, this is not necessary, as it is my responsibility to support myself with every choice, decision and commitment I make.
I have a contingency plan containing critical action points that serve my inner wellbeing, if and when difficult stresses arise – I know what’s in my combat toolbox to strengthen my mind, body and help me regain any lost focus.
I am confident, resilient and have an abundance of energy that is absolutely necessary to the success of my new vision.
I am not afraid to ask for help when I need it. I believe that asking for help is a necessary part of the process.
I am clear on my standards and expectations and I will not deviate from these in challenging times.
I will regularly take quiet time out, to reflect, review and refresh my thinking.
I am totally committed to the end goal, however I will remain present in the process and give everything my best shot.
I promise to value my self-worth and continue to grow and contribute to my purpose at every opportunity.
Your inner strategy is more important than the outer strategy. You’ve got to be clear on this stuff at the very beginning because if you are unclear on any of these statements, any slight failure along the way, may crumble your progress.
What I am saying is, go to work on yourself, know your inner strategy, have clarity and self awareness about you, for this will be the BEST start you can ever give yourself before any major life change. This is the sure start that will inevitably lead you to success.
Thank you for being here.
It’s Your Life, Go Get It!!
Article originally posted 7 April 2016
Updated and reposted 06.08.22 – London, UK
A very wise man, I once worked with, said to me, “Claire, time is gold…..time is gold…..TIME IS GOLD“. Sadly, this wonderful man is no longer here now but the wisdom that he shared, lives on in me and in others he had deep and meaningful conversations with.
If you have gold, LOTS of gold, your appreciation for time and fulfilling relationships is often enhanced. Maybe, this is because, the strive for gold, has now been achieved and you then realise, you’re still searching for that missing jigsaw piece – but maybe it was there all along.
What if, everything you feel you need right now, you already have?
What if, you viewed life with your heart, rather than your eyes?
What if, that thing you fear, is nothing but a fragment of your imagination?
What if, you dropped all internal doubt and went for what you want in life?
What if, time IS gold and material gold is in the way of your happiness?
Lots and lots of, “what if” questions, that either mean nothing to you or offer you a different perspective on life – it really is your choice what to think.
All I am saying here is, PLEASE, don’t waste your time on climbing a mountain, you don’t really want to climb. What I would say though, is choose wisely, which mountain you DO want to climb.
I’m going to make every Thursday on this blog “POETRY CORNER”. The reason being, I really LOVE writing poetry, especially with a positive spin on it or words that showcase a deep sense of inner wisdom.
So today I share with you Poetry Corner #1:
To feel alive, fresh and true, steal the show, by being YOU.
Never let, a negative voice, hold you back, or change your choice.
For you are special, one of a kind, uniquely passionate, with a genius mind.
So set your sail, to better lands, where your dreams, are in your hands.
Whenever I want to make a significant change in my life, I give myself a 100 day challenge to make it happen.
I will set the goal in hand, mark the start and end date and then everyday, I just bloody well GO FOR IT!
I have read so many times over and over again that it takes 21 days to break a habit but unfortunately that has never been true for me. I know this, because I have put it to the test many times before. I would be interested to know, has it ever worked for you?
In my opinion if you aim for a really juicy goal that you want to achieve and stay wholeheartedly committed to achieving it – the 100 day rule, gives you more than enough time. I have used this for daily running challenges, healthy eating changes and life-changing career decisions. 100 days, to me, is the PERFECT timeline for making a real positive impact on your life.
So let’s say I start today, 1 August 2022 and set myself a goal to write one blog post everyday for the next 100 days. That means, the 100th day lands on 8 November 2022 and I just know that by that day a HUGE positive impact will be made on my life – for me, it’s almost guaranteed.
You want a new job? Try the 100 day challenge.
You want a new relationship? Do the 100 day challenge.
You want to get fitter? Action the 100 day challenge.
You want to move home? Apply the 100 day challenge.
You want to start a new business? Implement the 100 day challenge.
It even works for training for a marathon – and I’ve run four!
And the goals list goes on……
The key here is, you must be committed to the goal in hand and you must NEVER miss out a day – if you do, give yourself the consequence of needing to start from day 1 again! (But then that wouldn’t be 100 days anymore).
Whatever date you are reading this, pick a feasible goal that you really want to achieve. Mark down the start of your 100 day challenge and highlight your end date – now it’s time, to GET TO WORK!
Are you up for the 100 Day Challenge?
Don’t overthink it – START NOW!
Oh and please let me know how you get on – I want to hear your SUCCESS story, so that it can INSPIRE and MOTIVATE others.
No matter how dark and cold it gets, remember there is always warm sunlight in your heart. For your heart is honest, whole and pure and is not driven by ego or external factors.
As we grow older, the mind takes on a new life. Sometimes and often a lot of the time, it is a reflection of our current environment. However, the heart is not led by the ‘outer world’ the heart manifests beauty from your ‘inner world’. The heart doesn’t need to think about right or wrong, the heart just knows.
Your brain, in all its neurological glory, is there to help the heart survive and to protect it from potential dangers. The brain, however, may sometimes overthink and get in the way of the heart and its natural pathway.
So how can we get the best out of the heart and the mind, so that they blend together so beautifully?
I believe, that if you do work from the heart, then the mind aligns – almost as if the heart and mind is one. The mind becomes at peace and the heart exudes only love. The mind then starts to exude its greatest genius and this ultimately forms magnifence in material matters.
If you are stressed right now, I bet it has grown from ‘out of sync, mind work and most definitely not from pure heart work.
I want you to think about how you get your mind and heart to work more coherently. It is in the unificiation of both these parts, that will create the perfect inner and outer life for you.
Do you know what it takes from you to reach your highest potential?
Do you know what you exactly want from life?
Do you know where you want to see yourself in 2-5 years from now?
Do you know what your core values are and if you are aligned with them right now?
Do you know the special qualities that you bring to the table and how to make sure you are utilising them as best you can?
Do you know how to unleash the greatest parts of you, so that you can contribute effectively to your dreams, goals and aspirations?
Now, turn each “do you know” question into “what will it take”; “what do I want” “what are my”……
It’s important that you DO KNOW the answer to these questions and it is more important that if you want to achieve these desires for yourself, that you take committed action on a daily basis to make them happen.
Hold yourself accountable and drive yourself forward into your dreams.
There are many different indicators of where happiness exudes from and I don’t think there is a ‘one size fits’ all.
I think each individual is so extremely complex, wonderful and unique that it would be quite impossible to come up with a general list for this.
There is nothing ‘general’ about being happy – let me explain.
Through different stages of life, my own quest for happiness has been determined by many different factors – mostly, where I am at, what I am doing, where I am going, who I am with and how I am feeling. Some of this stuff can relate to external positioning and material gains and sometimes that kinda stuff did make me ‘kinda’ happy.
However, there is a huge gap here that always feels unfulfiled in terms of ‘happiness’ when I feel out of alignment with my inner values, sense of meaningful contribution and working towards a purposeful vision.
You see ‘happiness’ I think, can never be extended for a ‘forever’ period of time – life just doesn’t work out that way.
I think what we are however looking for, which I feel, is much more powerful than happiness, is finding peace of mind and harmonious balance from within. When this is achieved, it’s like being in ‘flow’ and it offers a real sense of inner freedom that can never be captured.
The older and wiser I get, I realise that happiness will pop in and out of my life, just the same way excitement does and feeling motivated to do something.
If I am searching for ‘me’ in the whole process of life, then it is in the silence of the mind that the best part of me whispers.
Enjoy your happy times, for they are indeed precious, like sparkly, shiny jewels. The real sparkle however, comes from your own inner light, peacefully flowing in the freedom of your heart. Some even call that love.
She held a beautiful azure blue flower in her hand.
She took my hand and placed the flower in it.
Without any words, she gave me this message…..
Your magical heart can make the invisible visible. I am here because you shine. The blue of this flower represents the ocean and the sky. The petals represent the fragility of life. The wonder is not in the flower. The miracle is in you.
The old lady then disappeared.
The flower turned into tiny little seeds in the palm of my hand.
I then knew, it was time to self-nurture and grow.
Your mindset can uplift you to the highest of highs or the lowest of lows, so please make sure you focus on the former, rather the latter here.
In the heat of the night, keep your cool by sorting out in your mind, what needs done in order to make things better for you.
What do you need and want to change?
What do you need to do today to keep you moving forward?
What will you commit to doing and how will you hold yourself accountable?
When it gets to the “enough is enough” stage, it’s amazing the amount of energy you can conjure up in order to change a tough situation around.
It’s you against you – there is never anyone else involved.
Prove to yourself today that you can definitely do what needs done and then get busy doing that. If you do that over the next 48 hours – WOW, what a real difference you will make to your life in just a short space of time. Imagine then, you kept going with that positive change for a year!